does your dad have autism Traits

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Never thought it until a year or so ago when I started looking into whether I have ASD but my dad has just always been this very difficult, lonely, angry, odd person to deal with and we have all struggled with him a lot.

It is only now I look at him and have a lot of sympathy for him as I can see how out of place he must feel in life.

I think my dad definitely has some aspie traits.
He rarely makes eye contact with me,
and he certainly has some intense special interests
(especially John Wayne! He has every movie the guy's
been in, pictures and even a giant print of John Wayne's
face hanging on the wall of his house).
He also usually only brings up the same topics whenever
we're together, to the point where it seems rehearsed, scripted.
But I don't know if he'd be far enough to be diagnosed,
as he's quite successful at work and his coworkers all
rave about how funny and gregarious he is.
I haven't been able to figure out yet if that sociable work
personality of his is just more of an act and that I'm
seeing his real self come out around me, or vice versa:
maybe he really is a social, outgoing guy, but being around
me makes him quiet, avoid eye contact, and not know what to say

Not at all. He's the complete opposite, actually.
If either of my parents have aspie traits, it's my mom.

My dad has numerous traits. He has several sensory issues (sensitive to sounds, sensitive to tastes – dislikes the taste of almost all vegetables, sensitive to smells). He has many obsessive traits (his worse are related to hypochondria). He worries a lot. He has some intense special interests (his work, cameras, watches). I suspect he has the same executive functioning difficulties that I do. He is extremely introverted.

When I first learned about Aspergers, I suspected that he might also be on the spectrum.

I was definitely not as perceptive as Ezra when I was 13. You got a future, kid!

I do feel like i am like my father in certain ways though my parents split up when i was young(around 8 )so i didnt know him verry well but he was introverted,not one to chit chat ,we would speak to exchange information,he was a little social but never the center of attention.as far as other aspects i dont know he was probably like me and would hide any discomfort,if he had sensory issues he probably didnt know and probably thought it was normal,ive often told myself "if others can deal with it i should be able too "maybe he thought the same.as far as interests i dont know ,all i remember is him drinking (socialy,i never remember him being drunk)waching hockey and reading the newspaper,he had to have his daily paper.his father was similar but i know even less about him exept he had a HUGE stamp collection.when i would go over to his place (also his parents place)it would be so quiet.i think i remember when a lot of family members would come over and things got loud he would eventually migrate to a quieter place in the house and i always have done the same.

Absolutely. ASD would explain a lot about my father.

But he's also an a**hole, so some things are blurred

Yes.

Obsessive interests.
Not understanding when others are bored,
He had a separate room for his hobbies. It got to the point there was no room to walk, Flustered when having to multitask or do anything he does not want to do.
Perfectionist but very slow worker.
Noise sensitivity. If my mom clanks dishes he gets startled and panics because to him it is so loud he thinks there has been a major accident.

2 cousins of mine on his side of the family have been diagnosed.

Honestly no idea, i wish i knew.

Yes. He's worse than me. Social issues, sensory issues, routines, intense interests....He's really difficult to deal with. Realizing what's behind his behavior has made me a little more sympathetic.

My late father may have been an Aspie, but to be clear, I have no idea if he was or wasn't.

If he was, I would have asked him to join Wrong Planet immediately, even though he likely would have had little time to post, given his job working for a company that provided fuel for airplanes.