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Dr_Cheeba
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11 Jun 2014, 7:29 pm

By this definition, my mom and little brother would be the only ones.

I only have acquaintances and workplace relationships, I can't get close to anyone. My best friend is my cat.


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12 Jun 2014, 2:14 am

[quote="tall-p]"Get a (sexual) relationship" isn't that hard... hormones are flowing. But keeping a relationship requires intimacy. It requires caring about how the other person is feeling and having those feelings modify one's behavior and goals.[/quote]

Am I the only one who finds its scary that it is easier to have sex with someone than to be intimate? I know its true, but when you think about it! 8O I have lots of trouble being intimate with anyone - I sometimes wonder if I ever have felt that close to anyone. I like my partner, he is a friend, and that means more to me, somehow. I have always regarded friendship as more inportant than love.


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12 Jun 2014, 2:14 pm

BelleAmi wrote:
tall-p wrote:
Get a (sexual) relationship" isn't that hard... hormones are flowing. But keeping a relationship requires intimacy. It requires caring about how the other person is feeling and having those feelings modify one's behavior and goals.


Am I the only one who finds its scary that it is easier to have sex with someone than to be intimate? I know its true, but when you think about it! 8O I have lots of trouble being intimate with anyone - I sometimes wonder if I ever have felt that close to anyone. I like my partner, he is a friend, and that means more to me, somehow. I have always regarded friendship as more inportant than love.

There is a comment going around on tumblr recently that kinda stabs me in the heart... "I want to be someone's favorite person to talk to."


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12 Jun 2014, 3:25 pm

Nope. Zero, and always has been zero.



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13 Jun 2014, 12:14 am

[quote="tall-p] There is a comment going around on tumblr recently that kinda stabs me in the heart... "I want to be someone's favorite person to talk to."[/quote]


That is exactly it. That is something you can rely on.


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