are you well liked

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To my face people seem to respect me. Behind my back, though? Idk

15 partners? In one lifetime?!

15??? I have had a sum total of 2 and I am a ripe old 53. Doubtful there will be another either.

Most people ignore me and I ignore them, but there have been some groups I have been liked/respected. Small groups of people that have a relaxed or mellow personality have liked and even have gained a deep respect for me. As far as I know nobody instantly likes me. They have to know me for an extended period of time. I have been told several times I am not at all what they thought when they first met me. It works both ways in that my first impressions of other people are usually wrong. This is very different from most people.

I seemingly befuddle, frustrate and get in the way of Type A/extrovert and happy talk,positivist , New Age types that need to deal with me. I am not a threat to them, more of an annoyance like a buzzing fly they need to swat away,

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I've only ever had one real boyfriend and he's my husband now (and best friend ).

I used to care whether people liked me or not and worried about it all the time. Now I'm older and know that I am likely to be on the spectrum, I feel like I can let this go, and instead ask if I like the people around me. Once I like someone, I will try to spend time with them, but if it's obvious they don't like me, I'll move on.

Life's too short to waste on people who are mean and shallow.

Off topic minirant: Who is the idiot who coined the euphemism "partners" for a romantic/sexual relationship? I understand the neuromainstream has a need for euphemisms but this one is pathetic. "Partners" should go back being to meaning this http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-law-firm-partner.htm

I am close to some family members, all my brothers friends I've met either like me or at least have no issue with me I've hung out with a lot of them a few even without my brother around so its not like I'm just the tag along, they actually like my company. I've met a guy online and we've actually met up and likes hanging out with me...don't know that it would go in a dating direction but currently I'd say we're certainly just friends. I've met a few other people in college and what not I got along well with but not really in contact with any and a few of those supposed 'friends' just sort of took advantage and screwed me over more or less.....at least they didn't like beat me up, steal anything i had left and leave me in a ditch or a garbage can(since apparently that is what i was worth to them) even so still sucks when people you think are your 'friends' turn out not to be.

Throughout public school I was always pretty much an outcast, and in some contexts now I am sure I'd get treated like crap but I avoid many of those situations. Like if I was functional enough to work there's a good chance I'd end up getting workplace bullying....actually that already happened when I was 17 except I was too stupid to realize It till I was fired. Also I have my way of dressing and have certainly gotten dirty looks from stuck up people, but I am not usually in areas with many of them. So yeah there are people who like me, and sometimes I wonder how the hell that's even possible.

us non-popular ASD'er and WP'ers are one awesome
bunch.

I'm not sure. There seem to quite a few people who think I'm nice enough and they often respect my mind and parenting ability but most of them aren't very close to me. The best friends I have... Tell me about their best friends (i.e. not me).

I imagine if I died most of the people I think of as my friends would be too busy to attend the funeral or think they weren't close enough to me to bother going, then would ask each other how it was only to realise that none of them went.

Sometimes I would really love to have a real best friend (the reciprocal kind) but it's such hard work maintaining any type of friendship. I'm really not good at it and I need a lot of space. Plus I've never got the hang of making friends in the first place. I just gratefully accept whoever will accept me. The same goes for relationships.

Neither the thread title nor the OP indicated that this was a thread for people with fewer than x# of partners. What are you going on about? What does the number of partners, sexual, romantic, or otherwise have to do with how well liked you are? Did you intend for this thread to be more of a "can you get laid?" sort of thread vs. asking if people are well liked? Two entirely different things, IMO.

The really sad thing is that a lot of people treat their romantic relationships as though they were business associations. They get together, put together their finances to make things mutually beneficial in sharing one household, then go on to have kids on the basis of it being the expected thing to do.

As for me? Am I well-liked? No, not at all. And I'm not even trying to be not well-liked. I try to maintain a friendly demeanor when I approach people and talk to them, but all too soon, people will notice that I'm a bit weird, and they immediately turn their back on me- barring a couple of exceptions.

It is completely frustrating, because it's not my goal to antagonize other people. They just beat me to it in the atagonizing part.

I don't have a clue what people think of me, even though I worry allot about what they do think of me, I don't have any friends but everybody knows me as nice and respectful but at the same time they don't know me and don't really talk or approach me they know about my AS. I know I should not let what others think effect but I can't help it I want to be liked. When it comes to relationship wise I have never had anything at all, I would really like a relationship but nobody even showed the slightest interest in me, Iv never kissed a girl even and maybe only hugged one like 2 times for a very short time and I like hugs so I find it really annoying that I have not even a friend to just give me an occasional hug when I'm down (which can be allot of the time).

I don't think I'm well liked. Though it is hard to tell sometimes.

There are a couple of people who I know that really do like me and that's good enough for me.

I'm a bit picky anyway, so I wouldn't wish to be well liked by everyone.

I have few friends but all of them are strong relationships and most who know me, love me. I attribute this to my acting. I appear polite and thoughtful but I'm just hiding my natural self. Though I have lost a couple of past friends due to my social issues.