Are you a good liar?

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I almost never lie. However, I feel quite capable of doing so, as a skill. The fact that I don't look people in the eye anyway, but rather near the eye, along with my lack of normal body signals has made it so that I can lie about almost anything. Actually though, when I really have to lie, I convince myself that it is indeed the truth.

I find it very, very difficult to lie.
It probably doesn't help that I find it difficult to shut my gob, either.

i am a bad lier unless i really need to lie, otherwise i tend to smile and laugth that gives it away so easily

This may very well be an AS thing... Although I've told the truth 99% of the time since I was a small child, I've always looked like I'm lying, merely because I'm concentrating so hard to appear NT in the delivery, that I look like I'm hiding someone. It'd be a good way to win bets: "I'll bet you $100 I'm telling the truth." "It's so obvious you're lying!" ...Whatever...

Actually I'm a very good liar. However i lie in very rare occasions, and when i do is usually to avoid conflict or to avoid hurting somebody. I don't lie for my own advantage (eg to gain respect) like most NT do

It's funny about lying - psychologists say autistic people can't lie & AS people are supposed to be impaired at it - yet from the time you enter school you're barraged with attempts to make you behave as if you are different than you are - ie, talk when you don't want to talk, make eye contact when you don't want to, etc. To the extent that we learn to do some of that, we are taught to lie.

Because our faces are less expressive, we can, with practice, become accomplished liars.

Graelwyn talks about being uncomfortable with it. Me too, even though i'm good at it. But i think we're uncomfortable because lying is a social skill arising from the social instinct which we don't have. We want to tell the truth don't we? Well, despite what they tell you, social/NT people don't like the truth much at all.

I still remember when I told someone I never told a lie, and they didn't believe me. I don't even want to say the age, because I WAS fairly old, and it HAS been a long time.

Unfortunately, people INSIST on an answer! My boss, don't ask me why, sometimes tries to tell me that he has my best interest at heart, never lied to me, etc.... Even though we BOTH(he and I) know that he did tell me lies(I could actually point out instances), and doesn't have my best interest at heart. And those are only lies where he KNOWS I know. I know of many others.(Some overheard, some related, some pieced together) My father and Mother were the same way. Yet you don't DARE contradict them, or they get annoyed, etc... The old how do I look, etc... ALSO gets in the way. Frankly, if I didn't tell little white lies, people would be REALLY annoyed with me. MOST of the time because of opinions they asked for, or to avoid misunderstandings I know they'll have if I tell the truth, etc...

BTW I STILL try to avoid lies, don't tell many, etc... I even told the truth at times when I thought it would hurt me badly.

Steve

No, I can't. For me, it is what I don't say. I don't want to spell out all the details. Nobody is really interested in them.

When I was younger I would lie to stay out of trouble, but today I abhor lying. On the very rare occasions when I do it I feel bad afterwards. The same is the case when I lie by omission.