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As a young one, I spent oceans of time alone. I miss those days. I never truly relax unless alone. So I stay up past my wife's bedtime a few hours most every night. I'm around people enough at work that I'm tired of it by noon. I do have a friend of 27 years and his kids have known me their whole lives. I like being with the 3 of them all together better than being with my pal alone. More people to spread the burden of conversation - I don't carry my weight as it is and even what I do is not the right "wavelength" much of the time. Plus the sons have "stuff going on" whereas my friend and I ... well, not so much. At least since they moved 8 hours away I don't see them much and it takes an hour to catch up instead of 5 minutes. I'm loyal and can be counted on, but can also be counted on to turn the ringer off some days. A few friends who aren't too put off by that is preferrable to life as a hermit. But I could do it, no problem.

I live alone, and I LOVE it----no one telling me what to do, or when to do it; no one wanting something for dinner, that I don't want, for instance; no one wanting to watch something different on TV than what "I" want to watch..... I WOULD like to have a really good friend, though----someone to go do something with, every once-in-awhile; someone I could call on the phone, text, or email, just to say "Hey----ju see THIS!!", regarding a news article, current event, or whatever----someone with similar interests.

How close is your nearest neighbor? I have thought I would like to do something like that----but, I don't think I'd want to live "WAY OUT"----but, maybe, if I had, say, an acre of land, with one of those pre-fab houses, or whatever they call them nowadays, on it.

I don't necessarily love my own company per say, but I do have times I want nothing more than to be alone...and can enjoy myself alone at times. However I do get lonely and feel the need for interaction with others, also with my depression and PTSD I can get kind of self destructive feeling and the knowledge there are people in my life who would like to see me and be in my company can somewhat help curb that....As for living alone, I think that would be best then no way to conflict about the way the house/apartment is kept unless I want to have an argument with myself. Hence why I am looking into some subsidized housing I can get into with my SSI then I can invite people over when I want and have the place to myself when I want.

I do consider myself a "loner" but that's because over the years, I've been forced into becoming a loner by my family. Now that I'm in college, I can be friends with whoever I want.

not quite that rich, have a tin can on 1/3 acre surrounded by tall trees. closest neighbor about 300 feet away, invisible behind a bunch of trees and brush. it is far enough in the middle of nowhere that most of the time one hears no motor traffic rumble, just the sounds of the wind rustling through the greenery and critters scampering about.

I had no friends for years on end. If I wasn't at work I was on my own. I can't say I was that happy about it but then again, sometimes I would make a virtue of it. I'm certainly very self-reliant and probably could be a hermit without too much trouble but now I've decided that my life has to include other people. This is mainly because I got into some trouble which I don't think would have occurred if I had been more connected to people. I think my personality kind of deteriorated through just too much time on my own with no-one to reflect myself back from, if that makes sense.

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makes perfect sense

I love to be alone too! I do feel friends are important as well though. I'm alone probably 98% of the time but I try to get myself out.