16 Mar 2015, 3:59 am
Protogenoi wrote:
B19 wrote:
LupaLuna wrote:
Protogenoi wrote:
Here is a more obvious or extreme example: I had a friend in my last year of elementary school who lived with his grandmother. After his mother left his father, his mother never contacted him again. His father left 2 years later and never contacted him again. My friend never received any contact from them again. He got no birthday cards, no presents, no phone calls, and no visits.
Both of his parents ostracized him and his grandmother and went on to form new families and he wasn't apart of either.
He was also the only kid to be bullied more than me at school, so he had it very rough. He was a talented artist, but that talent went to waste junior year in highschool when he left this world.
Both of his parents ostracized him and his grandmother and went on to form new families and he wasn't apart of either.
He was also the only kid to be bullied more than me at school, so he had it very rough. He was a talented artist, but that talent went to waste junior year in highschool when he left this world.
It's stories like this that make me sick!
I wouldn't be surprised if he went on to do some serious self-harming - suicide attempts, cutting etc. Being treated in this way by your parents is to be devalued and dehumanised in a really dreadful way. It's very hard for these adult children to recover. Some express it in very violent behaviour to others; some internalise it in very violent behaviour to themselves. Other forms of severe child abuse can lead to the parents facing criminal charges; this too is an extreme form of child abuse, and the victim has no recourse at all, the perpetrators face no sanctions. It saddens me greatly to see people in this situation, and I have seen them. It rarely ends well. Many go on to try to numb the pain with the big heavy narcotics which leads to addiction and then the usual disaster of self-destruction, prison or death etc unless they have some transformative experience that acts as a turning point - have seen a few make outstanding recoveries in NA, but they are a very small minority.
When I said, "he left this world" I meant he killed himself...
Utterly tragic. Completely avoidable. Which makes it even more utterly tragic
16 Mar 2015, 9:02 am
16 Mar 2015, 9:07 am
16 Mar 2015, 9:17 am
kraftiekortie wrote:
I went through almost identical stuff, for almost identical reasons, when I was a kid.
It's good to be grown up, isn't it?
I am glad you made it through. You are such a positive presence here.
16 Mar 2015, 9:20 am
16 Mar 2015, 3:50 pm
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16 Mar 2015, 4:49 pm
B19 wrote:
The people who say "school years are the best years of your life" obviously aren't on the spectrum, that's for sure. Best years? Are they mad?
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