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I wish I could say otherwise: but life is full of misunderstandings. And that includes everybody, even neurotypicals.
I wish I knew you in person, so I could offer better advice.
But I hope you don't give up on people because there are some "bad apples." There are "good apples" out there, too. I find that it is better to interact with others than it is to keep yourself isolated. You have ideas. Ideas get better, I believe, if you live in the world, rather than isolate yourself.
You have a philosophical mindset. People frequently feel their "philosophy" is the best philosophy--to the point where they can get quite stubborn. Sometimes, when people get "stubborn," they could also get mean. In these instances, the person is trying to gain the advantage on you.
What I would do in these instances is "stick to my guns." You know what you feel, and you know what's "right." Who is to say you're "wrong" (unless your philosophical outlook is wrong, in an objective sense, morally).
What I'm saying, basically, is that you are a viable human being, and you should never let anybody, or any thing, interfere with you enjoying your life.
I know it's "easier said than done"--but I believe "saying it" is better than "not saying it."
Yes, I have realised about the huge misunderstandings that can happen, that life is full of misunderstandings. My ideal interaction is like in the book of the Little Prince, when he is with the fox.
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"It is an act too often neglected," said the fox. It means to establish ties."
"'To establish ties'?"
"Just that," said the fox. "To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world . . ."
"I am beginning to understand," said the little prince. "There is a flower . . . I think that she has tamed me . . ."
"It is possible," said the fox. "On the Earth one sees all sorts of things." (....)
"One only understands the things that one tames," said the fox. "Men have no more time to understand anything. They buy things all ready made at the shops. But there is no shop anywhere where one can buy friendship, and so men have no friends any more. If you want a friend, tame me . . ." (...)
"You must be very patient," replied the fox. "First you will sit down at a little distance from me--like that--in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. But you will sit a little closer to me, every day . . ."
No one thinks like them, though. I do not think that the philosphy someone has is necessarly the best; I think that finding the one that suits you better, and even adapting other philosophies to suit your own needs, that is better. That is the best philosophy.
I have gotten advatange of too many times as well....Well, at least I have remembered again about the fox from this book.
I got distracted by thinking about this part of the Little Prince, which made me think about many other things, that I forgot about the last part. Things are more complicated than that (for me), unfortunately, but that is not something interesting.