how do we escape poverty ?










You tend to be self-critical, and you tend to think outside the box. You have a hard time letting things go, whether good or bad. When you have your mind set on something, everyone else had better clear the way, although at times, your goals are a little unrealistic.
You have eclectic tastes in music and art, and you have yet to find someone who shares your opinions in every respect. Socializing itself is not an easy thing for you, and that "Special Someone" has eluded your best efforts. People tend to disappoint you, and getting close to others takes great effort.
Am I right so far? I sense that I may be a little off on one or two points ...

I ran into this really good personal finance adviser on talk radio. His name is Dave Ramsey. I have tried my best to follow his advice (living within my means and going without if I can't afford it). Now I work two jobs to pay my bills. I'm watching my debts disappear. In 2 or 3 years, I will be ready to go back to school and start a different career, one that pays more than social services.
I also had family support and was raised to work and pay my own way. This has been indispensable.
I admire what you have achieved. You have 'enabled' your progress, even through and over the roadblocks and speedbumps. I really admire that. We need a new word, I think: someone who could be called an "enablist".
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You tend to be self-critical, and you tend to think outside the box. You have a hard time letting things go, whether good or bad. When you have your mind set on something, everyone else had better clear the way, although at times, your goals are a little unrealistic.
You have eclectic tastes in music and art, and you have yet to find someone who shares your opinions in every respect. Socializing itself is not an easy thing for you, and that "Special Someone" has eluded your best efforts. People tend to disappoint you, and getting close to others takes great effort.
Am I right so far? I sense that I may be a little off on one or two points ...

add to that the desire on the part of the mark to believe that psychics are real and viola another sucker is born
I'd rather be poor as hell than wealthy. You never appreciate things as much when they're easily given.
So true. A few of my relatives grew up rich and spoiled with everything that they could ever ask for. (How many 10 year old kids have bank accounts in the high five figures and it is not for college?) Since they did not have to work for it with a job, they did not value money the same as someone who grew up poor. I remember a time where they bought out a fireworks stand (yes, the entire supply) because they wanted to. Times changed and the role got reversed on them when their farm started falling apart. That was a hard lesson for them to learn, as they always expected to stay rich living off of the farm account. They now value money much differently because they have to do work to obtain it.
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I'd rather be poor as hell than wealthy. You never appreciate things as much when they're easily given.
So true. A few of my relatives grew up rich and spoiled with everything that they could ever ask for. (How many 10 year old kids have bank accounts in the high five figures and it is not for college?) Since they did not have to work for it with a job, they did not value money the same as someone who grew up poor. I remember a time where they bought out a fireworks stand (yes, the entire supply) because they wanted to. Times changed and the role got reversed on them when their farm started falling apart. That was a hard lesson for them to learn, as they always expected to stay rich living off of the farm account. They now value money much differently because they have to do work to obtain it.
Some truth to this, yeah. I've never had much in the way of savings until the last year or so. I now have growing savings/investment accounts. I work hard for my money and don't get paid much, so it's taken extreme discipline to save up. I also now spend less than ever, too - and yet there's not much of anything I really want. The secret to having everything you want is not to want anything!

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THEN you can talk all you want about 'sh***y' jobs.

THEN you can talk all you want about 'sh***y' jobs.

A bit OT, but talking about sh***y jobs. When I was little, living in underdeveloped areas. There were many public toilets with no plumbing. Once a while a "poop scooper" drive up with his donkey cart and big poop barrel on it. He would use a long dipper to scoop them up by hand and pour into his barrel. The smell around the cart and the dude was atrocious. The stench was so strong and concentrated they actually condensed to form a layer of saltpeter on the outside of the barrel. Some kids told me they scrape those off to use in illegal firecrackers (like the type with no fuse but explode upon impact). (If you don't believe me look up guano.) People here have no idea the fear he instilled on children. How? Parents would say if you don't do better in school, you might only be fit to do that job. It's enough to scare any kid into working hard on their homework and study all night for their exams.

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While it's been a long time since my work years... aside from a couple of recent contracts... the one major thing I'll say here is pretty simple and is what got me through the bazillions of bloody stupid jobs: just NEVER GIVE UP. The moment you start to think "I cant do this" is the moment when you in fact start to be unable to do it. It took... awhile for me to really learn that sort of concept fully. My father in particularly always yammered on about "the power of positive thinking!" but it took quite some time before I really "got it". Granted, even then I'm still pretty negative by default (so that positive thinking tends to be like "ugh I hate this thing BUT I CAN TOTALLY DO THIS, HAHA argh this is so damn stupid" with me) ... hence my name... but still, it ends up helping alot. I dont work anymore, but I've other challenges/issues to deal with these days, and that sort of thinking really does help.
It may sound cliche'd and stupid, but.... eh, whatever works.
And there, that's my own probably not very useful input on that. Not useful, but I bloody well gave it anyway! Hah.
But good luck either way.