Help with Aspergers Diagnosis

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StarTrekkker ,

I'll be LUCKY if I can even get a diagnosis.
I am very autistic and have researched this and verified each one of my symptoms.
But seems I keep hitting the NT wall of "you're not autistic, you just don't want to work, go get a job" insane prejudice.
I think there's a deep bias against men , especially older men who have missed the diagnosis window.

It's like society is saying "lol, You're up s**t creek without a paddle, nope, we're not going to help you"

My last doctor was aggressive, dismissive and overtly hierarchical. He wouldn't even let me get a word in.
It's like I was a slave and I need to shut up and accept his ignoramus dictums from on high.

well f**k that

I know I'm on the spectrum and I'm going to get my diagnosis come hell or high water

By the look of the way this planet and species is turning out, looks like Hell.

Where do you live and under what medical system? I live in California and have recently learned we have more rights with doctors and insurance than they want us to even know. I've finally gotten/forced my insurance company to help me with my autism. If you have insurance and live in California, PM me and I'll try to help.

If people around you are respectful when you state your sensory and social needs as preferences, I'm glad that they are so respectful. Unfortunately, this has not been my experience and has not been the the experience of many other people who are Autistic. Our needs are written off as us just being "picky", "babyish", "weird", and "rude" as if we could just choose not to have those needs that mildly inconvenience others or other people are not used to. For example, before I knew I was Autistic, if I told people that I don't like dairy they would not take me seriously, tell me to stop being so picky, and try to serve me dairy anyways- even waitstaff at restaurants. In order to stop people from pushing dairy on me before I knew I couldn't eat it due to Autistic sensory issues, I had to tell people that I was allergic to dairy because they could not respect my needs when the needs were stated as preferences.

You could say it's because of lactose intolerance. It's very common and nobody would think much of it.

I like Rocket's and Iliketree's approach.

If you don't want to attend a social event, just say, "I don't feel like going," not "I don't want to come become I have social issues."

That makes sense. I think it was Tony Attwood who discussed a "need to know" approach to self-disclosure: if there is some reason that someone really needs to know, then tell them, but then only tell them what they need to know. In this case, you don't need to provide a justification, so don't.
"it's not my kind of thing" or "Let's do something together another time" is much better than "I have social issues."

I tried that. "Oh! My friend is lactose intolerant. She can eat this yogurt. You should eat this yogurt, too."

When I say that I cannot eat dairy because I have sensory issues related to Autism, no one gives me a hard time and I don't have to lie about who I am. I am not allergic to dairy, I am not lactose intollerant; I am Autistic but grew up at a time when rural doctors did not know about Autism, and I do not wish to now pay $3k to be diagnosed as an adult.

I'm a bit confused. I found a psychiatrist willing to diagnose me (a young adult) in one meeting, for usd$275 (my insurance doesn't cover it). I'm in AZ. I keep seeing people in the USA paying thousands of dollars. Am I not really going to get a diagnosis or something? like could he just refer me to someone else more expensive? (the appointment hasn't happened yet)

This could be because he is an "adolescent" psychiatrist who sees people up to 25 years old.

Does she like Dinosaurs or Greek History/Mythology? That goes along with her inability to read social cues and misinterpret social cues?