My parents won't let me join a fraternity because of hazing

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That whole "roommate kicks roommate out because he's getting lucky tonight and hangs a sock on the door handle" scenario is more something out of movies than real life, in reality.

Not that it can't or doesn't happen, but I think, OP, that you are worrying over-much about something that may never happen to you. You might get a nice, respectful, serious roommate who would no more do that to you than you would to him.

Also, I'm sorry you feel sad about how you're not getting invited to things. That will not always be the case. Concentrate on your studies and you will make friends in the natural course of things, especially in a situation like film class. That has to be a passionate environment and I don't think it will be too hard to have much in common with your fellow students there.

Don't join a fraternity, that's not the answer. You will have plenty of other opportunities to start getting other social things going.

Also, it's not the end of the world to still live with your parents while attending college or university. I've known people who did that, including my ex husband who happened to be 31 at the time.

Trust me, it is better to not waste your time in a social fraternity if all that they want to do is to party. I have seen so many promising undergraduate students get caught up in the distractions of party fraternities and either they drop out of college or barely graduate after many years there with a large loan to pay off. And I am talking students who could have been 4.0 GPA in engineering areas if they applied their skills, not ones who were below average from the start. Granted, not all social fraternities are evil. Some have very bad reputations that were earned over years of rowdy behavior, while some have very good reputations. It just depends upon the actions of their members. Find out what they are really like before deciding to join one is the best piece of advice that I can give on them. (I was in two fraternities while in college, but they were mostly academic ones.)

As someone who is in college right now, relax. You don't need a fraternity. You'll have pretty of opportunities to make friends outside it, only they will actually be your friends unlike the fakes in the fraternity. And no, most roomates do not kick their roomates out to have sex. And even if your roomate is in fact a douch and tries, you don't have to let them.