C2V wrote:
I have troubles with subculture, because I assume it still involves "fitting in" and conforming to a social norm. I don't understand that. Every kind of group people tell me is relevant to me - ASD, recovery, LGBT groups - I still display variations from the prescribed formula required to fit into these groups.
Over the years I've learned that among some subcultures the range of acceptable variations can be huge. LGBT is a good example; people are as likely to say that there is no actual subculture since the variation is so incredibly wide. In that case inclusion ranges from right-wing conservative Log Cabin Republicans and TERFs, to ex-hippie old drag queens, to suburban millennials who differ from their cishet peers only by expression of their sex/gender. And of course, there's trans people and their AS connection. Subcultures based on race, I've found to be similar; aspects of "subculture" of a Christian black woman in Rome, Georgia can be vastly different from those of a techie atheist AA woman in Oakland, California. My point is that from the outside, many large biology based (or biology based, externally enforced) subcultures are seen as monolithic but within they are as varied as all other cultures. Get in & find the sub-subculture that fits, as there may be more to choose from than is apparent from outside. It does take some sifting of chaff, but I've found there's always something interesting to learn along the way...
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