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Is 18 too late to have some hidden sexuality?

No i don't think so, i don't think its ever too late

Because there may be newly diagnosed spectrum-dwellers reading this and questioning themselves, I am not asexual.

Like someone else has said, if you met one person autistic person, you met one autistic person.

My sex drive has always been weird, I don't need sex all the time and I can go months without it and lot of sex grosses me out. Only sex I like it penis in vagina but anyway else people have it disgusts me. I don't even like doggy styles either. What does this make me? I thought gray-a. But I let my husband have sex with me anytime he wants so what does that make me now? It's like I can pick my sexual orientation. If I want to be lesbian I can, if I want to be asexual I can, if I want to be a gray-a I can, just weird. I picked the straight label in my early twenties so I identify as such because I can't imagine having sex with another woman but I thought about what if they were transgender and had a penis or a strap on penis?

In high school kids thought I was a lesbian because I didn't have any boyfriends or have any sexual interest in them. I did want to date a guy once when I was 17 because I thought he was cute but I didn't want sex, my relationship I wanted was more like a friendship I wanted. But he said he was too old for me even though we were nine months apart so I thought he was being crazy because I didn't know he was rejecting me, I just thought he was being worried because he was 18 I was 17 so I reassured him I wasn't looking for sex so therefore he doesn't have to worry. I just didn't have a sexual attraction then. Some people may believe they are gay or asexual for this reason until they decide they want to have sex.

Yeah, if anything I'm the opposite of asexual (hypersexual bisexual), can't stop thinking about it! From what I've seen we autistics tend towards extremes in the sexual realms, of course there are always exceptions.

My sister {who I suspect is an Aspie} is asexual and aromantic because she hates the male gender.

She has also accused me of being gay/bisexual even though I am straight.

There are many men that I think are attractive or whatever but I've never had any desire to have sex with anyone, i don't think it's gross but just have no desire to do it, I have no desire to do it by myself either, never tried either. I really cannot see the appeal of it.

I've never had any interest in sex. I'm not repulsed by it or anything, nor have I made a conscious decision to avoid it. It's just totally irrelevant to me in the same way that knitting or synchronized swimming or fashion are totally irrelevant to me.

I always thought I might be asexual, I had little to no interest in sex through the entirety of school. I only had a couple encounters, and they never lead to sex... mostly just exploring each other and curiousity. I would say I'm bi-sexual now that I'm older and wiser. I don't really have a true preference, although, lately I've been thinking about cute, girly guys. If I was to be in a relationship, it would have to be with someone I truly care about, gender takes the back seat.

I'm sure that I'm not asexual.

Well that would have been awful

What would have?

Nobody getting to play with Drawyer

I believe that technically, I am asexual, but I am also hypersexual. I think about sex a lot, and I love having a connection with someone. However, I hate actual sex. I hate being touched. I prefer to do it myself, and I do have a relationship built around this, with someone else who also enjoys the emotional/intellectual stimulation.

Actual sex, no matter how it's done, generally leaves me feeling exhausted, depressed, and irritable.. sometimes for days after.

But I don't generally use the term in reference to myself.

Do you think you might have some hidden sexuality?

Hehehe, You got it.