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Thank you so much. I really feel the love from you guys. I will be able to tell you what happened. I just need a little time to figure out the words. Thank you for being patient.

Can someone go with you to help you talk to the police? Even if your friend doesn't do any talking, it can help your confidence. I can have trouble understanding spoken words because of my sensory issues, and can have trouble talking if I am very upset. If you are a victim of a crime, or might soon be a victim, your local city or county might have a victim's rights advocate that could help guide you through the reporting process. If the police get hostile or don't want to talk to you, you might ask to speak to a detective or the police officers' supervisor (such as the duty sergeant, or precinct lieutenant or captain), especially if you feel like you are in danger. If you feel more comfortable speaking to a woman, ask for a female officer or detective. Explain that you are getting different messages from different people, and would like it explained to you.

If you are more comfortable communicating through writing, it might be good to write down what you want to say. Then you can either have them read it, or just use it as notes to help you talk. It might also be good for them to write down their instructions to you--it sounds like they are being very confusing.

If all this doesn't work and you think you are facing a serious issue that won't go away, there is also your local political representative who can look into your issue. That could be someone on the town council, county representative, or state senator (or MP, if you are British). I'd use politicians as a last resort though, as they can be pretty slow to react. Start at the most local level.

That's a good idea....somebody to "translate" for you, so to speak. And act as a liaison.

Here underneath the Rockies they're known primarily as pigs & I'd say this is why. Not only do they not coordinate anything (which would cover a lot of the 'protect & serve' bases), they tend to blame anybody else for their mess as long as it's convenient. I think keeping the peace ourselves is imperative. Clearly your local cops were not doing the jobs so clearly printed on their cars.

...and....people at large , and especially people like police and other "street-authorities" don´t bother to speak very correctly. I mean, their language sounds like half sentences, if you need verbal logic. If you´re personally in an unsafe situation it gets much worse.
Have you tried telling them, that you´re autistic and have trouble understanding and talking in this situation?

I might be missing something, but it seemed like 3 dispatchers and 1 or more officers in the past all agreed and wanted to help and then last night or recently an officer came who confused you and didn't seem to understand or want to help?

Could this be just one difficult officer?

I'm afraid that's something one should only tell American police if they already know them well. Not sure how preoccupied they are where Skibum is though... I just don't like seeing people needing to gamble on such odds.

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Hope you're doing OK.

My thoughts are with you so sorry all this is happening at Christmas

Government employees have a way of contradicting things they have said or that someone else from their department said. It's upsetting to be told one thing and then be told something else and not know what's what. Sometimes what happens is a supervisor decides to override someone else's decision just to show they are the boss. I guess the police are no different. Probably the timing has something to do with it too, being the holidays. I hope it all works out okay for you.

Hi Skibum,

Yes, marcb0t is here for you as well! Sorry I didn't see this thread sooner. =0

I must warn you that talking with the police can be a dangerous thing. The solution is to simply not answer any of their questions if they start to interrogate you for any reason. And demand to talk with a lawyer.

Police have a history of twisting people's words, setting people up with trick questions, and confusing people to do just that. There are good police out there, but there are too many bad cops. And that makes it hard to really know.

Anything that you can tell a police officer, you can instead, tell a lawyer without talking to police. It IS your constitutional right, actually. Feel free to exercise it.

But yes, I hope you are doing well, and recovering nicely!

And if you do that, make sure you find a lawyer you're certain you can trust. A lot of lawyers have the same dumb myopia as the cops, which makes them callous towards everybody just the same. It's this dumb truncated syllogism that goes something like "bad people off street"... As if they're street sweepers.

I hope you´re recovering well, Skibum, and aren´t subjected to more trouble