When two Aspies Talk

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What I noticed when I was verbal and able to attend support groups was the nature of the interactions was different. It was not socialization for socializations sake but an exchange of information. As would be expected no touching such as hugging that you see in NT conversations.

Maybe that's part of what I hated about groups like that. I'm not too keen on being touched, but something was always missing. I mean... information is nice, I guess? Sometimes you want more than that.

I'm going to attempt to join some high-functioning ASD group pretty soon. I hope that I can tolerate at least some people. The one aspie that I met in real life was extremely annoying.

I generally like people, actually, I'm just horrible at social interactions. Perhaps it will make it easier for me to stand other annoying people like me. I mean that I like nice, genuine, people. Not fake people. There are an awful lot of those, I think.

I'm starting to think things work like this:

If you and another autistic person have mutual interests, you have an instant best friend.
If you and another autistic person do not have mutual interests, you have an instant annoying prick.

Haha, I think that's probably true. I try not to be too annoying though. I'm now aware enough of my bad habits to prevent it for the most part...I hope.

Amen to all of that!

I do hope my own experiences and how I've described them in discussions we've both been in haven't discouraged you. I do think you should try some groups and do so with an open mind. It may work very differently for you than it did for me in the past.



For me it usually seems to go:

If you and another autistic person have mutual interests, you have an instant annoying prick.
If you and another autistic person do not have mutual interests, you have an instant even more annoying prick.

It's so refreshing when that doesn't hold true. I wish it happened more often.

I can, and do, speak to other aspies...but up to a limit. At first, we can relate to each other's lack of interest in what society considers the norm, or where our symptoms cross, then we start drifting apart due to many differences. Also, every single aspie I've met has comorbids like ADHD, bipolar, schizophrenia, BPD, depression, anxiety, etc which makes communication with them more difficult in the first place.

I've met a fair amount of people with Aspergers and Autism throughout my life, mainly because of school and I haven't gotten along with the majority of them. We have a hard time communicating, have different values, different levels of functionality, and different special interests. But I have met some who I have gotten along with, mainly since we're similar and they've been some of the best friendships I've ever had.