does anyone else on the spectrum cut themselfs?

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I think it depends on why you were doing it. I've drank many times to more or less punish myself. To get myself so fd up that I'd feel horrible, maybe damage myself and good because i deserve it. That's self-harm. To me, drinking to cope isn't so much self-harm.

I still slap and bite myself. But not enough to do actual harm.

It probably was self harm because I believe I was punishing myself for deserting Peter.

I met Peter from a Village Voice ad years ago. I was 26 and he was 22. He liked me right away. I didn't think he was good looking but I agreed to go out with him anyway. We had little in common; talking to him was a nightmare because he's Vietnamese and his accent was incredibly strong. We had fun, went to restaurants and stuff, but I didn't think he loved me. After all, no one loves Robin. That's in stone.

Anyway, after six months, and with me working full time and ignoring my music career, I broke us up. (I did it by phone cos I'm a punk). I told him to take the $500 I'd left in a jar and leave. He started crying on the phone. Bawling, really! I thought, "What the hell? Who cries for Robin? This kid must be delusional."

For the next 25 years or so I kept thinking about what I did. How dare I, the one who EVERYBODY abandons, turn my back on Peter? The guilt was so bad that my drinking picked up and, when I discovered drugs, I became deeply addicted, too. I came close to death while drugging, but as far as I was concerned, I deserved it for turning my back on Peter like that.

To this day I still feel bad about abandoning him like that, and that was about 27 years ago. I'm homeless and live in my car now. I wouldn't be surprised if I'm still punishing myself for making Peter cry like that. Shame on Robin.

Soft, non-injurous head banging sometimes when I get really frustrated. I have never cut myself, because I hate blood and have a pretty serious phobia of it. I have dug my nails into my skin to cause pain on ocassions when I am in severe physical pain from either digestive problems or from my bone disease. The self-injury really helps to cope with other pain, it releases endorphins and it ends up being the only thing my mind can focus on, the rest of the pain just gets drowned out. I don't try and cause permanent damage though I do have a scar from a bite mark in my shoulder when I was young.

As for suicide, I have had plenty of passive suicide attempts, where I would just speed out into a snowstorm, hoping I would just crash and die, or walking out into the road not caring if I was hit by a car in the past. No passive attempts in lately though, but I am chronically suicidal, and have been for the last 10.5 years. Often I just wish I was dead or that someone or something would just kill me, but don't really take any real action to make that happen.

I also bite, slap and head bang as well, but its more for stimming reasons. I dont cut myself to stim, i cut myself to release negetive emotiones- i find its different but i could be wrong.

I started self-harming when I was around 7, not long before I started junior school. I'd heat toys on the heater in my bedroom then hold them against my skin. I started cutting with bits of sharp plastic soon after that. As a teenager and in my early twenties, I self harmed a lot, gradually slowing down towards mid twenties. I'm 33 now and very rarely self harm. It always was, still is, an immediate way to relieve a melt down or a complete shut down. Instant relief I can't find in anything else. I find my scars a bit embarrassing at times, but don't go out of my way to hide them. I would never go swimming etc as I'm literally covered in scars and it would be a lot to explain to those with little understanding of self harm.

Many years ago i did. I still get depressed sometimes now but nothing like i used too. I believe a large part of it is diet, i look back at all the things i used to eat and drink, coke many bags of chips basically tons of sugar daily etc im not really surprised i was not able to get out of the hole i was stuck in. My life was crappy as well and surrounded by alot of users but also my diet was terrible.

If that fact alone had of improved i think i would of been alot better.

Oddly deathmetal is great for that if you like that sort of music. Also i love listening to stuff like inspirational battle music, if you've ever played a game whilst doing that you'd know how much better it makes you play and feel.

If you want to just space out try psychadellic ambient space trance its good stuff. I sometimes use this when writing.

This can be sketchy and go either way from my experiences. There is a certain catharsis that can be reached by overwhelming your anger with even more. I used to be an aspiring vocalist, and I'd have my albums I'd put on in my room or car, roar my head off for an hour and feel much much better.

Sometimes though the misanthropic and violent subject matter makes me feel even more destructive and tend to turn my desires to hurt myself into desires to hurt others. I know I would probably never do that unless seriously provoked, but it's still not something I like to play around with as I have a very evil, violent streak deep down.

I know it's off topic, but what bands are you into? I personally like alot of the newer stuff myself (more specifically Death Metals bastard cousin Deathcore- love breakdowns), and my older tastes aren't really much Death Metal...

I've struggled on and off with self-harm since I was seven years old. I've been through therapy and I don't cut as much since I graduated high school (which was the roughest time for me) but I still slip up sometimes and cut maybe once a month.

I did it last night. Another person basically drove me to it. Not like he cares, though. After all, it was also my "stupid" actions that led to me being sexually assaulted, therefore when it happened, it was ok to treat me like garbage.

You have to treat yourself better, Yigeren.

It's really hard when someone else is telling me that I'm basically not worth caring about, and saying horrible things to me while I cry,even when I say how hurtful they are. This person does not care.

I also apparently cut myself for attention ( I don't).

It was either do that or let my emotions drive me to do worse things. I'm ok, I'm not seriously harmed. I did it so that I could sleep.

I don't self harm at all, but I walk into glass doors and windows a lot. I don't know why I don't learn to pay attention.
Usually it just stuns me or knocks me to the ground, but I did it the other day in a store and got a nose bleed and loose tooth.

I do that, too.

Well we know what it's like for the poor birds that fly into windows.