Should I tell people I'm brain damaged

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25 Mar 2016, 2:26 pm

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I can see where you are coming from Devilkisses. When you get older you will realise that people will accept you whether you join in with their drug taking or not.

I do apologise for my initial flippant answer but I do actually find it easier to tell people that I wont got out drinking because I actually do have a problem. It's not a lie that I tell.

Also I have many friends who use cocaine every time they go out. When invited to join in that pursuit I just tell them "no, because it doesn't work for me", and they are grown up enough to accept that.

If your friends are grown up enough they will accept that you don't want to do it without you having to make up elaborate excuses.

It's not acceptance I'm super worried about. I'm more worried about looking unadventurous to people. It's possible I'll be "accepted", but they'll think in the back of their minds I'm boring and unadventurous.


Right.

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"Boring and unadventurous" equals "dorky" or "nerdy". Dorky/nerdy equals "autistic".

And "autistic" is the label that you're striving to escape, but that hated label keeps finding you, and keeps on attaching itself to you like a leech.



So in your mind you imagine that if you're seen to be doing rebellious teenage things folks will think that you're a normal NT teenager/20 something. If you betray that you somehow cant handle slightly dangerous things like beer, or pot, you imagine that folks will peg you as "autistic" (world without end).

Could that be what this is really about?



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25 Mar 2016, 2:34 pm

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Smoking weed is adventurous?
Well, this is a new concept.
I've never thought of pot-heads as particularly adventurous people :?

I don't smoke weed because it makes me vomit.


Weed is not adventurous, its medicine and you'll always vomit the first time if you smoke too much. Tolerance builds quick, one hit can get a noob medicated. I used to stay elevated most of the week with two joints by splitting the joint into three sessions. Now I am up to 3-4 bowls a day, you don't need to smoke too much. If you smoke too much your going to have a bad time.

I like its anxiety killing properties, but I dislike being high. But for me personally, tolerance builds in about a month and than you can smoke and only feel a little happier and not feel impaired. I am not impaired all the time, I function at daily tasks. If weed has any bad side effects its that it makes me happier in isolation which is suppose to be a bad thing but I'd rather not deal with people's crap.

If you were around me Raleigh, I would have you over and teach you how to smoke without puking. You need to breath it in once and wait ten minutes cause weed sneaks up on you and if you sit there and smoke until you feel high. Than the last few puffs won't go into effect until later so you have to bear in mind when you do that your going to get higher. I never smoke when I feel medicated, the effect can build quickly.



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25 Mar 2016, 2:38 pm

naturalplastic wrote:
DevilKisses wrote:
babybird wrote:
I can see where you are coming from Devilkisses. When you get older you will realise that people will accept you whether you join in with their drug taking or not.

I do apologise for my initial flippant answer but I do actually find it easier to tell people that I wont got out drinking because I actually do have a problem. It's not a lie that I tell.

Also I have many friends who use cocaine every time they go out. When invited to join in that pursuit I just tell them "no, because it doesn't work for me", and they are grown up enough to accept that.

If your friends are grown up enough they will accept that you don't want to do it without you having to make up elaborate excuses.

It's not acceptance I'm super worried about. I'm more worried about looking unadventurous to people. It's possible I'll be "accepted", but they'll think in the back of their minds I'm boring and unadventurous.


Right.

My theory:


"Boring and unadventurous" equals "dorky" or "nerdy". Dorky/nerdy equals "autistic".

And "autistic" is the label that you're striving to escape, but that hated label keeps finding you, and keeps on attaching itself to you like a leech.



So in your mind you imagine that if you're seen to be doing rebellious teenage things folks will think that you're a normal NT teenager/20 something. If you betray that you somehow cant handle slightly dangerous things like beer, or pot, you imagine that folks will peg you as "autistic" (world without end).

Could that be what this is really about?

Kind of. It's not just about being autistic. I feel happy and fulfilled hanging out with free spirited people. I don't want to be rejected by them because I won't smoke pot.


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25 Mar 2016, 2:40 pm

^
^ I wouldn't even have to inhale to puke.
Just smelling the smoke would be enough.


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25 Mar 2016, 3:05 pm

DevilKisses, why don't you want to smoke weed?


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25 Mar 2016, 3:20 pm

Raleigh wrote:
DevilKisses, why don't you want to smoke weed?

I'm scared it will mess up my brain and health.


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25 Mar 2016, 3:54 pm

So tell them you don't want to mess up your health.
Give 0 f***s about what they think.

Forgive me for saying this, but you seem to build up anxieties in your own mind by overthinking everything.

I will tell you this: I've had much more success with people when I gave up caring about what they think and being totally, honestly me than at any other time in my life.
You don't have to put on disguises.


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25 Mar 2016, 4:00 pm

DevilKisses wrote:
Raleigh wrote:
DevilKisses, why don't you want to smoke weed?

I'm scared it will mess up my brain and health.


I smoke weed everyday and I have no health problems but that is valid as the drug has a lack of research to it and it could pose a risk I'll be honest. However, the current data shows that the drug is completely harmless and all the research that says otherwise were done in ridiculous conditions. For example, the study that found that weed kills brains cells was carried out on monkeys and they gave them so much marijuana that they had no oxygen. They basically killed the monkeys by removing oxygen and said OMG weed kills.

I am not saying smoke, I am not like that but I am delivering the facts.

Raleigh wrote:
^
^ I wouldn't even have to inhale to puke.
Just smelling the smoke would be enough.


I will not invite you to my house than you'll die lol

Have you tried edibles and just so you know the dosage issue is worse with edibles so literally take one bite and wait an hour.

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So tell them you don't want to mess up your health.
Give 0 f***s about what they think.

Forgive me for saying this, but you seem to build up anxieties in your own mind by overthinking everything.

I will tell you this: I've had much more success with people when I gave up caring about what they think and being totally, honestly me than at any other time in my life.
You don't have to put on disguises.


This

You don't owe the world crap so screw em and don't get high. I say screw em and get high but you don't have to because its a free country.

*EDIT* I removed calling the OP who is female a dude, gee I gotta stop doing that, sorry guys.



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25 Mar 2016, 6:07 pm

Say "no thanks, It makes me paranoid"

DevilKisses wrote:
Raleigh wrote:
DevilKisses, why don't you want to smoke weed?

I'm scared it will mess up my brain and health.


Well maybe ask your doctor about your situation and weed. It doesn't cause brain damage, in the general population. Maybe do some more
Research



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25 Mar 2016, 6:13 pm

enz wrote:
Say "no thanks, It makes me paranoid"

DevilKisses wrote:
Raleigh wrote:
DevilKisses, why don't you want to smoke weed?

I'm scared it will mess up my brain and health.


Well maybe ask your doctor about your situation and weed. It doesn't cause brain damage, in the general population. Maybe do some more
Research

Great idea. I'll just tell people weed makes me paranoid. They never have to know if I've smoked before or not.


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