The best place for an autie/aspie to live

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I live in Chapel Hill (Chapel Hell?). I see you live in High Point, is furniture you big interest? Just kidding, I notice you are high school age. Which might explain much of our differences in opinion. I think familiarity counts for a lot for aspies, change can be a challenge. If it is what is familiar to you, then you will feel most at ease there. But I definitely think NC is a very reactionary place in deep denial about its place in the world and the country. It is less backward than much of the south, but it still has a long way to go.

The reason I prefer larger cities (Charlotte and Raleigh aren't true cities, they are southern towns!) is that since there so many types of people aspies are just thought of as another source of human variety. As long as you aren't an ax murder, you can fit in a city and often find many people who appreciate you and who you will appreciate back. In a place like NC, that is nearly impossible: they think conformity and simple-mindedness are virtures, which truly sucks for aspies.

My place!!

2.5 acres - only 1/4 acre is cleared.

Lots of hiding places.

Wallabies, Cockatoos, Galahs, Rainbow Lorikeets, Pale headed rosellas, Magpies, Brush Turkeys etc to chat to.

I'd like to live where everything is parallel where I can find it.

In general I think larger cities just because, as has been said, there's 'room' in people's minds for more variety in humanity. Personally, I have the horrible heat/humidity problem & wish I lived in California!

I agree partly with your assessment of North Carolina. I lived in Charlotte for 9 years and Raleigh for a year and a half. Charlotte was probably the most hostile place that I've lived, but Raleigh was nowhere near as bad.

Raleigh is probably got more creative types and more geeks because of all the RTP stuff. Charlotte seems more conservative, but there are many jobs that are probably aspie friendly in the banks and all. I actually think a city that combined Charlotte, Chapel Hill, Durham, Raleigh, Ashville, and maybe (god forbid?) Willmington or Winston-Salem would be a very nice place to live. The thing that appeals to me about cities is that people experience the value of variety. But in NC things are so far apart that the towns mostly just feel like one-trick ponies and aspies like me feel left out.

The only thing that was worthwhile about Charlotte is that the wierd people stick out. Many of the people that I knew there were strange or considered 'crazy'. In hindsight, I'm almost certain that many of them were either undiagnosed ASD, or pretty close to it.

Other than that, Charlotte is a city of extremes in the fact that it is either very upscale, or complete ghetto. What makes the ghetto in Charlotte such a fickle thing, though is the fact that even though there are areas which are obviously ghetto, there are many areas that are not outwardly so, and look for all intents and purposes like a nice suburban area. --Until people point out the places where drive by shootings, carjackings, rapes, where the drug dealers and prostitutes work, etc, took or take place.

I don't think any place is aspie-friendly because people know very little about AS.

I live outside New York City, and before that lived in Washington DC for many years. I found that the big city environment is a mixed bag. On the one hand, it's easier to blend in and get lost, mass transportation is much more available, and so forth. On the other hand, big cities are loud, dirty, disorganized and it's almost impossible to go off by yourself and be alone. Depending, of course, on your specific living arrangements.

I love the Pacific Northwest and may end up there again. Portland is a terrific city.

Sounds very much like where I live: York, PA. It has all the conveniences and problems of a big city
but the amenities and benefits out weigh the dangers. There is one thing about the city that I think
stands above the rest and that is the Heritage Rail Trail. It is the one place I go to when I need some
solitude and tranquility.
http://www.yorkcountytrails.org/

I've considered moving out of state (to "start over") several times, and cities in Oregon always seems to come up high on the list of potentials.
On the other hand, I love Austin. In a city where a bearded guy in a tutu regularly runs for political office, I seem positively normal. Seriously though, there is an extremely diverse crowd of people, and eccentricity is practically worshiped here.

The perfect place to live is of course MY place...
(Doesn't everybody think so?)

My sister lives in Austin, and though I haven't spent too much time there I really enjoy it. Good-sized, college town too, and has a good variety of styles of people. I think it'd be too hot for me in the summer, though. I live in Kansas, and it's too hot for me . . . .

If they did, it would get crowded.

a nice out of the way location in a nordic country.

I live in Austin too. I guess for texas it is the best place. the "motto" is (which i think they could have come up with something much better) but.."Keep Austin Weird."
And the tutu politician is Leslie and is pretty much famous in austin. he dresses in drag and parades the streets all the time. i live in downtown and he likes to hang out in those parts.
haha! hes even in wikepedia!!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leslie_Cochran

the eccentricity being worshiped is true. i really like the fact that i totally blend in or if i do stand out it doesn't matter. most of texas is not like this.

its great for nature lovers, sport enthusiasts, animal lovers, very political, very healthy and educated, very aware, tons of live music (seeing ben gibbard-<the postal sevice, death cab for cutie> next week, in a live small show!!).
but i'm thinking of taking off as well. it might be time. and in us there is nowhere id rather go than the west coast.