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17 Apr 2016, 1:22 pm

Spiderpig wrote:
How do you know you’re not a hottie?

Logic and self-awareness.



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17 Apr 2016, 1:25 pm

Logic by itself says nothing. And just because you don’t see yourself as attractive doesn’t mean you aren’t to others, especially to the others you least want to attract.


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17 Apr 2016, 4:35 pm

Spiderpig wrote:
Logic by itself says nothing. And just because you don’t see yourself as attractive doesn’t mean you aren’t to others, especially to the others you least want to attract.

I don't think it's impossible for someone to find me physically attractive. However, it is kind of naive to think that I would not know whether or not I'm a "hottie." If I was a gorgeous hottie or conventionally attractive, I'd surely know it by now. People are staring at me for other reasons.



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17 Apr 2016, 4:42 pm

ResilientBrilliance wrote:
Spiderpig wrote:
Logic by itself says nothing. And just because you don’t see yourself as attractive doesn’t mean you aren’t to others, especially to the others you least want to attract.

I don't think it's impossible for someone to find me physically attractive. However, it is kind of naive to think that I would not know whether or not I'm a "hottie." If I was a gorgeous hottie or conventionally attractive, I'd surely know it by now. People are staring at me for other reasons.
I dunno if you would or would not know. I say this only because I am completely blind to other people's perceptions of myself on any level until they get angry or are just laughing. Not mean laughing. Sharing humour, jokes laughing. If they are interested, I don't know it. If they are offended, I don't know it. Anything other than extremes, I don't perceive it at all from other people.


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17 Apr 2016, 5:16 pm

I'm already somewhat agoraphobic. Being out in public when I'm by myself and not with a close friend or family member can make me quite anxious, and I often have to psych myself up whenever I plan on leaving the house for something. When I'm not by myself and I'm with someone I closely trust in a familiar location, then I'm usually fine, but if it's a place I'm unfamiliar with and there's tons of people around and lots of s**t going on, or even just a lot of stuff in one small place (like the first time I visited Warp 2, a comic store in Edmonton), then I'll often get overwhelmed and anxious.

I want to learn how to beat this so that I'll feel more comfortable going to conventions and trying out new stores.


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18 Apr 2016, 9:57 am

mr_bigmouth_502 wrote:
I'm already somewhat agoraphobic. Being out in public when I'm by myself and not with a close friend or family member can make me quite anxious, and I often have to psych myself up whenever I plan on leaving the house for something. When I'm not by myself and I'm with someone I closely trust in a familiar location, then I'm usually fine, but if it's a place I'm unfamiliar with and there's tons of people around and lots of s**t going on, or even just a lot of stuff in one small place (like the first time I visited Warp 2, a comic store in Edmonton), then I'll often get overwhelmed and anxious.

I want to learn how to beat this so that I'll feel more comfortable going to conventions and trying out new stores.


How to beat it, i am not sure, but this is exactly the same challenges i have.

I have been building up slowly, its frustrating, but at least when i go to my few "good" places now i feel safe and more confident. New places require a friend.

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