Do you hate people saying hi to you?

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Nothing wrong with someone saying hi to us. I'm not bothered by that.

I find it to be a bloody waste of time. (Sorry a bit to english) I mean like why don't you just come up to me while I'm busy doing me own thing and knock my stuff over and say. What I'm just saying Hi.

Personally I don't hate people saying a simple "hello", and respond generally with the same word[s] and pitch. I think it's part of the social contract - at the bare minimum - to acknowledge the existence of individuals we might encounter, and a "hello" is the most concise and appropriate means of doing so - also, in only stating a greeting, actual information remains detached.

I agree with the points made when a "hello" turns into just that slight bit more, with the addition of something such as, "and how are you?". I believe it common knowledge that people expect of this question to be gifted with a response of wellness or content, because in my reading, neurotypical individuals mirror sensations - whether positive or negative - in other people, ergo, when one responds with "Yes, I am very well", as far as I am aware, the neurotypical will then feel well. However, those of us with autism respond with the truth, always, and thus, problems can arise.

I'm fine with "hello"'s, and my universal stock reply to an enquiry about myself is devoid of as much content as possible: "I'm good, and you?". In keeping it short and rapidly re-diverting the question back to the speaker, they don't have time to really consider it. This hasn't failed me yet.

Sure. Especially if I have to break my focus just for as what? A gesture of attention?
The best way I sway small talks from a greeting is treat a greeting like a question.

Someone: "Hi, goodmorning you!"
Me: "Yes?.." "Do you need something?"
Someone: (Usually goes with "I'm just saying 'Hi'." Then switch with "How are you" if they're your acquaintances, interested strangers or friends, less likely if it's a colleague.)

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That's why I do my best to avoid all eye contact and stare at the floor when I'm walking through a space where I'm likely to meet someone I know, like at work. Just the tiny act of looking at their face, smiling, and saying hi, or answering their "how are you" with a "good, you?" feels like a monumental effort that I'd just as soon avoid. I've been seriously thinking about just getting a baseball cap or something with a brim and sewing one of those patches on it that says, "I'm not ignoring you, I'm autistic" in an effort to get people like checkout clerks or people at bus stops or in line behind me to stop trying to arbitrarily talk to me when I just desperately want them to leave me alone.

Yeah I'm not a fan of the whole "saying Hi" thing. I think it must come from the whole aspie thing about hating small talk. A lot of times if someone asks me(mostly at work) how I am doing, I'll be like "Eh... I don't know" or "I just got here, not sure yet". I never say hello to anyone at work, I see no point in it and it feels fake to me. If someone I like does, I will respond but only to be polite.