obsessions ruin friendships

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I'm crying as I type this. I've lost a friend from my clubhouse, over my obsession with London, five years ago. He told me to give London a rest and that I could modify my accent, in order to sound more Canadian if I tried. I told him that I have autism. He told me that he didn't care. he told me that he had a lot of free time on his hands, and that he was willing to do everything to help me. I told him that I wasn't about to give up on London, or lose my accent. He said, "Fine! Have it your way!" I didn't see much of him, after that. I never see him, now. He was from Yorkshire, and he had a quiet, reserved nature to him. He was also in his mid 50s, and I was 27.

I can see both sides so clearly. When I was younger all I could see was my own interest in that subject, but then I met others who were just like me. I actually met a girl (I strongly believe she had Aspergers from her manner and repetitive talking) who was obsessed with bands and stars herself. Her particular obsession of the moment (it changed frequently) was the actor Adrien Brody....even now 3 years later hearing his name makes me shudder because I was subjected to HOURS of details about him, everything from his movies right down to his dog. It was pure TORTURE. I then realized what I had done to my friends making them hear about my bands.

Yeah friends should accept you Drummer_girl, but I guess there is a limit to anyone's patience. Hopefully one day you will meet some wonderful patient friends who will listen to you and take an interest in the flag because they are interested in YOU. Until then your only real option is to try to hold it back, when you feel the urge to say something flag-related try to stay quiet or say something else. Also try to take an interest in what they like, people tend to be more patient if you're letting them talk about their stuff too. And like Grimbling said, see if you can find some friends online who love flags...I'm sure they are out there!! !! !! !

Supposed “friends” ruin friendships; not friends…. Interests, obsessions and delusions a friend does not make. A friend is a person you’re happy just “being” [you] around; you don’t even have to share the same interests and/or illusions, just drawing positive energy from their simple being.

Your friend will be there...whether you ask for them or not.