What I should bring up when trying to get diagnosed again

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Hmm...well, I'm a "homebody" I guess, and certainly only have an allegiance to a few close family and (sort of) friends.



I can sometimes be accidentally blunt (not so much anymore-I mostly know what to say/not say now). But I'm also a "worrier" I guess, and kind of self-conscious.



I guess I tend towards the "discreet" end of things, preferring a one on one conversation without others listening in. (I can be quite annoyed by others listening to personal stuff I'm talking to someone about.)



I'm mostly reserved around people I don't know, because I don't know how I'm supposed to act. Sometimes I can be wacky around people I do know (well, occasionally).



Hmm...I can be easily hurt by criticism, and don't like it when I get the sense people don't like me.



I don't think I do this. I have no idea what signs of anxiety I would be showing, so I guess I can't worry about it



I'm definitely an underachiever, basically because I can't navigate through what I'm supposed to do to finish college or get a higher paying job, etc. (and I'm comfortable where I am). On the other hand, I have razer focus on stuff I'm interesting in, and will spend hours thinking about it, researching it, etc. (It would be nice if I could get hired somewhere to fix computers, since I do that very well...but actually getting in to that position is the problem for me).

So...that's that, for what it's worth

You make it sound like that's "nothing"!

I do agree with your response, but lacking social skills is probably not something to be sweeped under the carpet

Having "known" Norah online for many years, I'd say yes, definitely. (I always "liked" you Norah but it pains me that you are still so desperately scrabbling for a diagnosis after what, four years that I first read the same attempts on Delphi? You are you, you are a wonderful human being who is valid and worthy and likeable just the way you are! You don't need this diagnosis to make you complete!)

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Indeed - slap someone in the face enough and tell them they are worthless or inept, and they will start believing it

Hmm...is it possible to have both AS *and* AvPD?

I don't see why not.

Sure but if all problems easily fit into AvPD then AS doesn't come into it... but yeah you can have ANY PD alongside AS...

Okay. I was wondering because I was physically and emotionally abused growing up, and fit some of the AvPD things (not nearly enough for the DSM criteria), but also fit the AS things (as near as I can tell), and AS is the only thing I've ever found that explains why I am the way I am.

I am a homebody, have allegiance to a few close friends, and somewhat to my extended family--I do avoid them but I would come through for them as best I could. My immediate family (including my kids), sure, I have allegiance to.



I end up being both-- self conscious and then, intentionally or not, blunt.



Well, again, often I **think** I'm being cautious when it turns out I was being blunt!



This one is harder... sometimes I am reserved, other times not. I tend just to remain quiet.



Well, I tend to take being disliked and criticized as a given, so no, this doesn't really apply to me!



No... I don't really care about that. I don't cry easily, anyway.



In some ways I'm an underachiever, in other ways I'm very productive.

Then it sounds like the other "crap" (the bad sh*t) was just built on top of AS...

s**t happens indeed, alongside AS I too have other diagnosis.
Its not uncommon to have splashes of or traits of other things alongside the other and sure, if life was hell of course more would be piled on. The thing with PD's though is most of them can be treated/aided in one way or another unlike AS which is a little more assuring that we can atleast sooth one dx.

Though with things like PTSD, AvPD and BPD there isn't much GOOD that comes from them as there can be a lot of good that comes from AS.

i think you should just be yourself. i wouldnt worry about it too much, being diagnosed or not doesnt really do anything for you anyways

Norah, though I'm dx I can relate a lot to what you going through. I always knew I problems. I was right, lots of them, but it was a hard struggle finding out. I don't really see AS as a problem but a relief knowing. Anyway I had/have SA too. In fact my friends are SA.

What I would suggest is going to see a clinical psychologist. Some do have experience with ASD and generally you should find it better than going to see psychiatrist. Typically a psychiatrist have a short time to make a diagnosis. If you're going a shrink every week they have plenty of time to make a diagnosis. One thing that I would advise is don't treat all your problems as one thing. Otherwise you won't be able to eliminate that s**t. Going to my shrink really helped me with SA and she worked on specific areas like my eye contact. A psychiatrist won't do that for you. About a year on she started to mention about Asperger’s causally, but I was a bit angry and the time and not sure what she was on about. Then six months later she told me. One and a half years, how about that for a dagnosis!?! Plus all the work that she did with me wasn't in vain.

I've still got some problems but I will try and keep pushing. I guess finding out about my AS was something I never anticipated.

I would find a good chartered psychologist definitely. You can ask them for their accreditation. There is a website you can look them up to make sure they are legit.

Interesting. Person X thought I had Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and later, as he had gotten to know me better thought I had AS (which I had never heard of). Actually I guess I don't totally fit C-PTSD as I don't really relieve stuff that happened. My high anxiety level seems to be the big thing that might be left over from/caused by C-PTSD...if I fit that.

Weirdly, what I *do* relive are stupid things I've said wrong in social situations-even stuff from a few years ago when I misunderstood and said the wrong thing to a drive through person at Mcdonalds. Silly stuff like that will pop in my head and make me think I'm an idiot.

A lot of people with AS also have PTSD...

Blocking out things is a typical PTSD symptom and way of coping. I've just started unlocking some of my memories, things I didn't even remember happening until now. The mind does strange things. Also, I do the same thing in relation to 'reliving' stupid s**t but feeling nothing towards the really damaging things, that in itself - numbness - is also pretty typical than add AS symptoms such as apathy towards happenings, unable to grasp or comprehend emotional foundations, ect.



Which makes sense.