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TheSilentOne
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19 May 2016, 4:10 pm

I try, but it is really hard for me and I am bad at it.


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19 May 2016, 4:11 pm

^If it makes you that uncomfortable, you could always look at the person's chin or nose. Nice signature, by the way! 8)


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19 May 2016, 4:21 pm

TheSilentOne wrote:
I try, but it is really hard for me and I am bad at it.


This.

Because it hurts. There are too many emotions in eye contact, I feel all the other person's emotions and I don't know how to cope with them.

When I do it's either very deliberate and I had a compelling reason to, or it's a complete accident. When it's accidental eye contact it can be like a gut punch and I don't like it. I immediately want to find a place to hide until I am able to feel like it didn't happen.


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19 May 2016, 4:22 pm

^I'm the same. I often want to hide, especially when I'm at school. :(


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19 May 2016, 4:33 pm

Kuraudo777 wrote:
^I'm the same. I often want to hide, especially when I'm at school. :(


That's why you start crying hysterically until your teacher takes you to the nurse or social worker. Works for me!


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19 May 2016, 4:35 pm

I do cry hysterically, but no one ever notices. Then again, I cry extremely quietly, so...


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19 May 2016, 4:36 pm

I can only look someone in the eyes with someone I'm comfortable with,like my mother.Otherwise I look over their shoulder or their mouths.


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19 May 2016, 4:36 pm

AnaHitori wrote:
Kuraudo777 wrote:
^I'm the same. I often want to hide, especially when I'm at school. :(


That's why you start crying hysterically until your teacher takes you to the nurse or social worker. Works for me!


Never worked for me, crying at school was always ineffectual.

And now I'm all grown up with full time job, and crying at work because I think my co-workers looked at me funny doesn't go over very well either.


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20 May 2016, 7:23 am

if everyone on earth had their eyes removed and then piled up in a mountain of just random eyes, then it would be so huge that you couldn't see it all unless you got further away, and then you would think "f... me dead! look at them all"
that is the sum total of everyone's windows to their soul huh?



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20 May 2016, 7:43 am

For some reason eye contact does not come off as a problem for me. It might have been due to circumstances at home or something. Who knows. I'm just glad this is one of the things not affected by my aspergers.
It always saves me from sort of trouble too. I do have trouble reading body language though. :P