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30 Aug 2016, 4:04 am

I know of someone online who only worked fast food until someone recommend he try working as a security guard. And he has worked as one ever since. He says most of the time he works by himself and does't have to deal with others. And the work isn't demanding.



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30 Aug 2016, 5:10 am

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I really long to be free, as in not have to put up with a job I don't want to be in. Although they moan about work, most NTs still thrive on the routine of work and certain pressure and rules, and some would hate to be without a job. But me, I find work stressful, just the idea of being there and having no other choice, and the boredom and the thought of finishing one shift only to know that you have to do it all over again tomorrow. That's nice if you like your job and it's a pleasant environment, but those sorts of jobs are hard to find, because these days a lot of businesses seem to want to make it miserable for employees, and that is harder to endure when you have AS or anxiety or other conditions.


It's funny... I'm an aspie, but I do crave the routine and the sense of order work gives me and I definitely would hate to be without a job again. Even though I'm not thrilled with my job, if given the option to either stick with it forever or to never work again I'd take the former. I just can't stand not having something to get me out of bed in the morning.


Well I suppose we're all different. Maybe I get it from my mum. She's never liked working really, except when she was really young and enjoyed her job, until she got made redundant. Otherwise, she's always wished she was rich enough not to work. And it is not laziness. Like me, she get's anxious, and prefers to be free and not be under pressure. If I never had to work, I'd be quite happy to busy myself in other ways; seeing my family and friends more, doing some volunteering, doing all the housework at home, and getting lost in my creative hobbies like writing. I will always find things to do. Ok sometimes I may get a little bored or lonely, but it seems that going to work makes me anxious, and I feel I can't be there longer than a few hours at a time. I often wish there was more days in a week.


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30 Aug 2016, 5:33 am

EzraS wrote:
I know of someone online who only worked fast food until someone recommend he try working as a security guard. And he has worked as one ever since. He says most of the time he works by himself and does't have to deal with others. And the work isn't demanding.


Yes. I know quite a few people with AS who are security guards, and they say it suits them very well for these reasons. Plus the shifts are regular and don't change much.



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30 Aug 2016, 11:11 am

Joe90 wrote:
Well I suppose we're all different. Maybe I get it from my mum. She's never liked working really, except when she was really young and enjoyed her job, until she got made redundant. Otherwise, she's always wished she was rich enough not to work. And it is not laziness. Like me, she get's anxious, and prefers to be free and not be under pressure. If I never had to work, I'd be quite happy to busy myself in other ways; seeing my family and friends more, doing some volunteering, doing all the housework at home, and getting lost in my creative hobbies like writing. I will always find things to do. Ok sometimes I may get a little bored or lonely, but it seems that going to work makes me anxious, and I feel I can't be there longer than a few hours at a time. I often wish there was more days in a week.


Indeed. I don't think it's an aspie/NT thing... it really comes down to personality. Some people like me find it very important to have a place they need to be each day. Others like you and your mom find that burdensome. Neither is wrong, it's just being human.


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30 Aug 2016, 2:53 pm

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Something else I have noticed I see a lot of people I went to school with and they are either going for store managers of fast food restaurants and the corporate world as well and taking on a lot of responsibility, is it normal for us Aspies to not want all of that to handle?


I don't think it is uncommon, I know I've always felt I can get overwhelmed more easily than most people, seems like a lower tolerance to some kinds of stress and stimuli.


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20 Sep 2016, 8:51 pm

even when I am not working I still feel a lot of stress with everyday life as if I have to ''micromanage'' everything or my life is a business I feel stress from worrying about my older dog to my personal life and my home life I get upset because I always try to relax and go with the ''NT Flow'' but it feels as if everything in life has to be ''just so'' and even when I talk I use big words and am very precise and give very detailed information



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20 Sep 2016, 9:42 pm

It seems like you're living a pretty normal life. Everybody has responsibilities and anxieties that they'd rather not have. My suggestion would be to ask yourself, "Can I remove myself from the situation somehow?" If yes, then work on that. If no, ask yourself, "Can I do something to make my situation more bearable?" If yes, then work on that. If no... wow, that sucks, but you'll probably survive.



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20 Sep 2016, 10:27 pm

do you think the way our neurological system is set up that we have more stress and worry as oppose to NT's?