What do you find weird about neurotypicals?

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29 May 2016, 9:37 pm

They like to eat in the dark. Say it adds ambiance or something. Whatever that means. :P


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29 May 2016, 9:39 pm

But, who doesn't like to do everything in the dark ? No horribly intense lights in your face. It's so relaxing. I love darkness.



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29 May 2016, 9:48 pm

The quite common NT tendency to think there is only one "right" way to do anything (theirs) is weird to me. Whether that's neurology, ignorance, the egotism that manifests as my way or the highway thinking, or something else, baffles me. For people with so much empathy (apparently) they can remarkably nonempathetic someone else approaching the same goal in different ways and some seem to take it as a personal insult to themselves, as well as a personal failing in the person who takes a different approach.



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29 May 2016, 10:06 pm

The way people jump to conclusions or make assumptions about things they don't know. For instance assuming that my comment had a hidden meaning, assuming that they know what I want to eat or drink, assuming that they know the reason why I did something. Not exclusive to NTs by any means, but it seems to be their domain.



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29 May 2016, 10:13 pm

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The quite common NT tendency to think there is only one "right" way to do anything (theirs) is weird to me. Whether that's neurology, ignorance, the egotism that manifests as my way or the highway thinking, or something else, baffles me. For people with so much empathy (apparently) they can remarkably nonempathetic someone else approaching the same goal in different ways and some seem to take it as a personal insult to themselves, as well as a personal failing in the person who takes a different approach.


You've just described my mum to a T. That's exactly what she's like. Those types of NTs expect everybody to be cookie-cutters of each other. If she says one more negative thing about any of my three favourite helmets out of the ones that I own I'd be more than happy to take the highway, cower off and do German things.

Sorry mum, but that's what you get for telling me to find out who I really am and to be myself.


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29 May 2016, 10:14 pm

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Saying "We missed you" when they've had every opportunity to keep in contact, and even failed to reply to the emails I've sent and the voicemails I've left.


This, or similarly someone when someone asks me to keep in touch and acts like I'm the one who is hard to reach, when they haven't responded to any of my previous efforts to contact them.



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29 May 2016, 10:27 pm

I think it is sad when ASD people learn the bad part of NT-behaviors.



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29 May 2016, 10:41 pm

Ugggh. A huge generalisation topic. I for one try not to think of neurotypical people as one stereotype with no variation. Like Ezra said, there are autistics who do some of these things too. Because we're individuals to an extent, just like neurotypical people are. And way to hang in there, nurseangela.

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Thinking that any affection you show towards animals makes you a "furry" who wants a bestial relationship.

Showing any positive feelings for someone the same sex as you makes you gay/lesbian.

Showing any public affection for your parents and vice versa is incest.

Being friends in a non-sexual way with someone the opposite sex as you is not possible unless you're gay or ugly.

If you're an adult who collects toys, you must be a pedophile.

If you're an adult who plays family-friendly E-rated games like animal Crossing, you must be a pedophile.

I don't know if this is a neurotypical thing per se but I completely agree with the distaste for the simplistic sexual obsession. For some people, everything is sexual, and there is no other form of relationship possible between anything or anyone. This disappoints me in TV shows, which start out great and about interesting topics or stories, then degenerate into sex, babies, relationships, relationship problems, custody battles, blah blah blah. There is no example of any other kind of relationship besides a sexual one, and even the language used to describe it places sexual relationships above every other kind, aka "only friends," as if having a friend is less than a lover. I generally stop watching TV shows as soon as sex is introduced, especially if the relationship had been an actually different and interesting one, either familial, platonic, vocational, etc to begin with.
This has historically been an issue for me with socialising with others, too. They had been showing an interest in me because they wanted sex and sex only, and were just playing the game until I finally have it to them. I didn't understand that, and when I refused, they became hostile. Same as if I ever showed an interest in someone else, they interpreted it as me courting them for sex.


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29 May 2016, 10:44 pm

But it's illogical to have it so dark that you can't read the menu. But if I'm just hanging out. Then ya. Darkness is nice.


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29 May 2016, 11:04 pm

This goes with the assumptions and hidden meanings thing I already mentioned, but I don't understand the way they read flirting into things when it's not remotely intended. Not just men assuming that I am flirting, but have also had other women assume I was interested in a man when I was absolutely not. And for the most benign reasons, like smiling at someone? I dunno.

But then, vice versa, I have had other people make gestures to me that were blatantly sexual, which they would later deny had any such intent, or that it even happened, especially religious folks who believe their intentions are always pure...like the guy who pressed his genitals into my hand, denied it, and then later asked for my phone number.



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29 May 2016, 11:59 pm

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I think Aspies do just as many drugs, maybe more even.


I know for a fact people on the spectrum do just as many things and even more.

Whole lot of erroneous stereotyping going on.

An "NT" is any human being who is not on the autism spectrum. That's all. Not another species, just basically 9.9 out of 10 human beings.

About 1 percent of the world population has autism spectrum disorder.(CDC, 2014)

World's population: 7.125 billion (2013)

7.125 billion minus 1 percent equals....



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30 May 2016, 12:06 am

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I know for a fact people on the spectrum do just as many things and even more.

Whole lot of erroneous stereotyping going on.

An "NT" is any human being who is not on the autism spectrum. That's all. Not another species, just basically 9 out of 10 human beings.


You tell 'em, Ezra. :)


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30 May 2016, 12:14 am

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You tell 'em, Ezra. :)


I don't disagree with most of what is being said. I just think people in general suck :P



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30 May 2016, 12:21 am

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Ugggh. A huge generalisation topic. I for one try not to think of neurotypical people as one stereotype with no variation. Like Ezra said, there are autistics who do some of these things too. Because we're individuals to an extent, just like neurotypical people are. And way to hang in there, nurseangela.
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Thinking that any affection you show towards animals makes you a "furry" who wants a bestial relationship.

Showing any positive feelings for someone the same sex as you makes you gay/lesbian.

Showing any public affection for your parents and vice versa is incest.

Being friends in a non-sexual way with someone the opposite sex as you is not possible unless you're gay or ugly.

If you're an adult who collects toys, you must be a pedophile.

If you're an adult who plays family-friendly E-rated games like animal Crossing, you must be a pedophile.

I don't know if this is a neurotypical thing per se but I completely agree with the distaste for the simplistic sexual obsession. For some people, everything is sexual, and there is no other form of relationship possible between anything or anyone. This disappoints me in TV shows, which start out great and about interesting topics or stories, then degenerate into sex, babies, relationships, relationship problems, custody battles, blah blah blah. There is no example of any other kind of relationship besides a sexual one, and even the language used to describe it places sexual relationships above every other kind, aka "only friends," as if having a friend is less than a lover. I generally stop watching TV shows as soon as sex is introduced, especially if the relationship had been an actually different and interesting one, either familial, platonic, vocational, etc to begin with.
This has historically been an issue for me with socialising with others, too. They had been showing an interest in me because they wanted sex and sex only, and were just playing the game until I finally have it to them. I didn't understand that, and when I refused, they became hostile. Same as if I ever showed an interest in someone else, they interpreted it as me courting them for sex.


"And way to hang in there, nurseangela"

I was getting a little misty-eyed. I don't think there's anything wrong with me - I just really like small talk a lot.


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30 May 2016, 12:29 am

dianthus wrote:
The way people jump to conclusions or make assumptions about things they don't know. For instance assuming that my comment had a hidden meaning, assuming that they know what I want to eat or drink, assuming that they know the reason why I did something. Not exclusive to NTs by any means, but it seems to be their domain.


It's strange how they act on their assumptions and don't second guess themselves at all. I also don't understand how other people would agree with their assumptions and don't question them at all, even though there's no proof that what they are saying is even true.

I also think it's weird how a lot of people get angry and hostile towards people who don't conform. I mean, if they don't have any bad intentions behind being different it then it seems like a silly reason to become hostile towards someone.



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30 May 2016, 2:36 am

The way NTs ask questions they don't really want answers to, like "how are you?", "how was your day?" etc. I especially hate the second question because we both know that my day was very similar to the day before it, and the day before that. It's also annoying because I know when they ask it that I'm expected to ask it back, then listen as they say, "Oh not bad, same old same old". Why do we have to waste our time with such meaningless exchanges? I once asked my family to stop asking me how my day was, and told them if anything actually interesting or important happened, that I'd let them know. They didn't go for it. Imagine how much quieter the world would be if we all just stopped saying unnecessary or redundant things.


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