AdamLain wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
AdamLain wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
AdamLain wrote:
BTDT wrote:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-new-resilience/201608/are-you-single-youre-likely-have-more-fulfilling-life
New research contradicts the stereotype of single people as lonely and unhappy.
“Living single allows them to live their best, most authentic, and most meaningful life."
An article about the perception of single people being lonely and articles about men being generally angry and irratable from lack of ohysical contact are two different things. All you have to know is that "Blue Ba**s" is obviously a real thing.
If blue balls were a real thing then masturbation should clear that problem right up by clearing out the pipes, so to speak.
It is, and sorry, sometimes I forget I'm talking to people without a lot of social or life experience in general.
You might be surprised at the amount of life experience I have. If your profile is accurate, I am the same age as you. I have been single for a long time now, but I had relationships when I was younger. And yet here I am, happy with who I am and my life and enjoying living and not dying of loneliness, and not getting laid the whole time. It is possible, and masturbation does help. But the most important thing is the liking yourself part and not relying on other people to give you something (self-worth) that you can only give yourself.
Wonderful for you. But if you are so happy, then why are you getting so defensive?
It's not defensiveness--it's sadness. I see people suffering and it makes me sad because you don't have to be suffering. It is possible to live alone and be happy, and I just want people to know that so they don't keep suffering needlessly. Then again, your tone is really angry and dismissive so maybe I shouldn't feel bad for you, but still I do. It's just all so unnecessary.
I hope you find some happiness. It's not that I don't ever feel lonely at all, it's just that feeling is not dominant in my consciousness, it's not defining. Sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if it were more "traditional"--you know, the well-paying job, the 3.2 kids and nice house and all that, the stuff the media tells us we are supposed to have--but not everyone can have that life and that life won't make everyone happy. I have learned to be grateful for what I do have, and for my unique experience. Since I have done that, I don't spend a lot of time feeling lonely or feeling like I missed out on something; instead I remember what I DO have and I am glad for all the things that make me happy that other people who have that more "traditional" life don't have the time to appreciate.
Maybe it's because I grew up in a household that was not happy, but the peace I have now is exactly what I wished for when I was a child and wished to be anywhere else but my house with my miserable and cruel family. There is no one around to abuse me or tell me I am worthless, and what people I do allow into my life contribute to my happiness rather than taking away from it like my family used to do. I only have one friend left from my youth when I was more socially active--it turns out when you are a product of a toxic environment you can draw a lot of toxic people to yourself, and that's what happened to me when I was younger and more social, before I discovered my self-worth and the power to stand up for myself and banish the people who only wanted to hurt me. But that one friend I have is a true friend who accepts me and loves me for who I am. That is a precious gift, and a lot of people who have that more "traditional" life can't claim such a friendship as I have. All-in-all, I feel blessed.
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"Ego non immanis, sed mea immanis telum." ~ Ares, God of War
(Note to Moderators: my warning number is wrong on my profile but apparently can't be fixed so I will note here that it is actually 2, not 3--the warning issued to me on Aug 20 2016 was a mistake but I've been told it can't be removed.)
22 Aug 2016, 6:22 pm
