Do you think im stupid?

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Why would you care if someone on a forum hates you? The chances of meeting the aforementioned someone are extraordinarily low.

Oh! Is there no way to train yourself to direct your violence at lets say a punch bag. Or is it possible to notice the physical changes that lead up to a violent episode and give yourself a time out or something.

I dont hit my parents i stay away from them i dont want near them during meltdown but tantrum does go near them hit them thats what it is its called audience but i didnt care anything i forgot my medication on Sunday mistakes arrrghhhh i just found out before im not impressed

It takes intelligence to analyse and correctly deduce why things go wrong. No need to doubt yourself ever again - you are not stupid.

When I was young I broke every door in my parent's house, put my fists through windows. Once, I even put a person into hospital (the teacher fled the room, locking the door and leaving the class to try and restrain me). I also fractured several of my Dad's ribs once. That was the last time I every hit anyone and it was 30 years ago.

It is possible to control meltdowns but it take practise and patience and you need to try and recognise the signs of one starting. I found the most effective thing to do is remove yourself as quickly as possible from the source/trigger of the meltdown. If this is a person - get away from them. Asking them not to follow will be pretty much impossible though as, if you're like me, you'll have trouble speaking. Get to somewhere quiet and then try deep breathing, counting, anything to refocus. When you're calm'ish, lie down and rest. Recovery for me can take from several hours to several days and the first thing I do is apologise to anyone I've offended as the guilt I feel afterwards is huge.

Anyway, that's what I do and it seems to work pretty well. I had one the other day at work while "talking with someone" and felt I was a couple of seconds away from tipping some desks over. I managed to say something like "can't talk. have to stop". I couldn't just leave work so I got my headphones on, and started deep breathing. I got through the rest of the afternoon, went home and fell asleep. The next day I said I was sorry to the person I was talking to.

Like I said, it works for me. Your mileage may vary.

Who is trying to restrain you are but i dont hit people only if you had meltdown would you hit me so why u hurt ur father how come rips broke hows is he what is going on would you hit me?

I'm not sure I fully understand what you're trying to say but:

"Who is trying to restrain you": Well, pretty much the entire class of 15 year-olds.
"i dont hit people": Good for you. This was a response to EzraS, although the technique should work for all meltdowns.
"only if you had meltdown would you hit me": I wouldn't hit you because I've learned control.
"why u hurt ur father": I had a meltdown. As for the reason? I'd rather not say.
"how come rips broke": Because fists can do far more damage than people imagine. This was the reason I learnt a form of control.
"hows is he": Fine. Remember that this was 30 years ago.
"what is going on would you hit me?": No

I hope I got that right

Are your parents trying help ur emotions i dont like hurting my self i used to bang my head when i was little i learn not to hit i prefer be alone during meltdown i bet you as well does NT has meltdown like we got or aspergers has more emotions in meltdowns all i do uncontrollable crying swearing angry shouting and scream sometimes hitting is really rare

No, I had to sort out my problems myself. That doesn't mean that you have to.

i dont like hurting my self i used to bang my head when i was little i learn not to hit i prefer be alone during meltdown i bet you as well does NT has meltdown like we got or aspergers has more emotions in meltdowns all i do uncontrollable crying swearing angry shouting and scream sometimes hitting is really rare[/quote]

Yes, sounds just like me Like I said, it's all about control and that comes with time and practice. I still have meltdowns and probably always will, but nowadays they aren't ever violent and I've learned to predict them most of the time. They still catch me out sometimes, though.

Good luck Berabara!

Meltdowns don't make you stupid, OP, and I've had plenty myself and they were awful. Feel free to ask if you want to know more.

I usually escape the situation. If that isn't a Option then I resort to violence to escape the situation.

I dont like meltdown my self i find it dangerous because i could've hurt my self so bad i don't hit my head i dont hit people i don't like people follow me while im cranky

Yeah I don't like them either. They're awful. I've hit my head a lot in the past, and hit it off walls too.

I hope you feel better soon.

Who said that?

I don't think you're stupid.

Thank you its slowly getting better

People not patient with me most of time now im far not interested with people in shopping centre or strangers i have no interests with them because i dont understand people i get turn off sometimes mainly NT at my age depends on the person is that same thing but in shy when im talking to them when not talking im feel fine but i im not interested talking to them is that normal for us