What is your biggest struggle with Aspergers or Autism?

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I don't know what would be my biggest issue then I can't answer this properly. This is very recurring, I feel beyond confused when I'm asked to enumerate items and pick "the worst" or "the best" from a list - though I don't know if this is really an Asperger's trait. I'll have to go through a number of personal concerns because I can't pick one.

Coping with a job is certainly difficult but maybe this goes like that for everyone else on Earth. Definitely, having to work eight hours a day away from our own house, our own problems, our own lives shouldn't be asked of anyone I think.

Romance is a problem. Always has been a problem and I feel like it's aggravating every day as I trust others less and less.

Dealing with people in general. I don't think my social interactions are carried out adequately. Maybe this is it. People walking on the street look at me as if I were a criminal with a bomb or something. I don't inspire much confidence in others at first. Some even seem to hate me *before* getting to know me - what I find odd.

Depression, co-morbidity. Been struggling with that from an early age, way before I even knew of Asperger's.

Clumsiness, absolute lack of dexterity. I struggle to keep myself organised, I make lists of tasks and yet manage to overlook important details, skip items in a particular order and/or forget to get back to them. Plus, I'll break things around as I go.

I tend to think of me as a highly empathetic individual, despite all that's said of autism and empathy, but maybe I'm wrong about that. There are times when I almost can feel the pain of others like if it were me in their shoes but looks like my "empathy switch" isn't flicked on all the time, if I mean. I remember being told of in key situations because I was rude, disregarded someone else's feelings and so on...

Then there's this... I am functional enough to pass as a "normie". The very few close people that I told about my diagnosis (except from shrinks), they don't believe me. From experience I see that telling people that I'm on the spectrum is a very bad thing, because they'll either call me a liar or a ret*d. This is hurting me a lot lately. For instance, people in a mobile group I am part of were speaking ill of an Aspie girl they know. They were very intolerant and disrespectful, but I couldn't tell anything in her defence because then they'd know I'm on the spectrum myself!

Well, from what I read in the other posts I'm pretty much a "standard Aspie" with all the main features of the recipe, nothing new. :/

That is why I gave my non-answer.

I struggle with this too.

The stupid ways in which people act towards me. The harsh way that they ask what my problem is. How some of them tell me that I shouldn't be riding my bike on the sidewalk not knowing how hard I have to work to maintain my balance when I'm pedaling. The way that some customers at my job ask favours of me to do things that I'm untrained to do or that I'm not capable of doing and I actually do respond by saying, "I know nothing!" so that they'd leave me alone. The way that little old ladies walk into my personal space, give me very direct eye-contact and ask me very simple questions.

For me, it's been employment because my Asperger's makes getting hired based on an interview much more difficult than it would be. I might look great on paper, but the interview is where I mostly screw up.

Socializing and hypersensibilities.

I'm a teacher, so I work directly with people, all the time. I have to talk a lot and can't stand working long hours. I'm almost always stressed out after a day of 6-8 classes. I have saved a day during the week (Wednesday) to stay home and decompress. I plan on doing something else in the future. I like teaching, but I can't do this realistically for many years more.

I don't know.

I think sensory issues are the easiest for others to see, but I wouldn't say those are the biggest struggles.

Maybe communication? For example, when I order food, I often end up getting something I never wanted in the first place. It also can take a while before people get what I'm talking about.

My executive functioning and short term memory are also pretty bad. I compensate for my physical clumsiness by doing things slowly, and nobody has an unlimited amount of time.

And of course, I also am socially clueless.

Idiots on the net using it as an insult (they tend to be neurotypical idiots whose understanding of ASDs is more narrow than Adam Sandler's acting range).

I would say that my suspected auditory processing disorder is my biggest stumbling block in life. Sure I am socially inept and lack an imagination, but even the simplest of individuals should be able to follow basic verbal instructions.

If you take into consideration that my reading comprehension is poor and my executive functioning issues are severe, it's somewhat surprising that I am not in a home for the mentally challenged.

I guess you are classified as functional if you know your name, DOB, times tables and your ABCs.

Most everything you folks have posted plus frustration with the stupid norms who missunderstand the simplest communications and irritation at being unable to handle my frustration...

Lacking spatial awareness -- no sense of speed or distance. Thank goodness I don't have to drive in the city very often -- being a country bumpkin does have some advantages.

There are other quirks, but that's without a doubt the one that's most dangerous. IDK if that's related to AS or more with dyspraxia. Really, the more you look into it, the less difference there's between high functioning AS and dyspraxia.

Not being seen for who I am.

What? I definitely have HFASD. I definitely do not even resemble dyspraxia, let alone fit the criteria. I'm not clumsy, I'm incredibly organised, I have a good sense of direction, I'm good spatially as far as I'm aware, and I met my motor milestones. I have relatives with dyspraxia, I'm pretty much the opposite of them. Some people may have both and it may be hard to see what disorder is causing a symptom, but not everyone does because they're separate disorders.

Lack of friends, not having my own house or apartment, not having a gf, & not having a car.

I have a lot of trouble with school because of my Autism. I find it hard to focus and stay in classes as well as get assignments done. I have a couple of friends, but I find it hard to interact most of the time with other people.

Being ostracized and miscomprehended by others.

Being pressurized to conform (esp. groupthink from team work, not limited to NT's) at the expenditure of independent thinking, freedom of thought and truth.

Social Relationships (they are so boring (esp small talk, "social media" and related gossip), especially if the communication is not formal, one-sided conversations related to interest; personal privacy, or academic issue, and prefer being isolated and having a schizoid like solitary life engaging in my interests and objectives... and I HATE parties).

Propensified to Social Anxiety.

Some Executive Dysfunction issues (reluctant to learn new self-sufficient things due to poverty and unemployment, and taking a while to devise long forum comment posts due to a preoccupied emphasis on perfection, staying on topic, verbosity, and obviating logical fallacies as much as possible – these however are reasonable).

"Auditory perception deficits" due to non-literal linguistic expressions from NT's that are imperative to some discussed issue (I don't regard this as a disability).

Terrible at sports (unfit mainly).

That’s it really; to put it out flatly (unequivocally), poverty from our debt based monetary and banking system is hindering my long term goals, NOT me being autistic (NO ONE will convince otherwise whatsoever). If I was rich (middle class to upper middle class) and debt free, most of my executive dysfunctions would be quickly eliminated as my reluctance to do such things would be gone expeditiously.

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People. They are weird.
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