Ever get concerned about life being delayed by AS of HFA?

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My uncle bought an expensive little sports car when he had a midlife crisis.

**RANT WARNING**

I'm upset that I've never even bought a $300 piece of s**t car. I've never even bought a stereo or a plane ticket or a piece of furniture that wasn't $25 at a second-hand store. The only big purchase I've ever made was my computer, and that was with a student loan- I certainly didn't save for it. I applied for the loan on the Internet, and a couple of weeks later I suddenly had $2000 in my bank account, so I bought a computer. That was five years ago and I'm not in school anymore. I dropped out because I couldn't get the assignments done. I make monthly $100 payments to the loan when I remember. I do that because they tracked me down and told me to start paying and how to do it online. I'm sure my credit rating is terrible.

And my peers are buying houses and raising children. They have, like, life insurance.

I had all these expectations. People always told me I was an exceptional kid and I would go places. What kind of place is this? My apartment is infested with some kind of beetle and the bathroom has a mould problem. It's not even my apartment. It's my boyfriend's. He financially supports me and we're not even technically married. I'm not even a housewife. I don't even do dishes or laundry.

I might as well be a goddamn child!

And people my age are contributing to their retirement funds! HA! I didn't even do my taxes the last three years and I sometimes wonder if I'm going to get arrested for that one of these days! (I'm sure I would have been owed a refund anyway, but I still legally have to do it.) I vaguely recall getting a speeding ticket a year or two ago and I really don't think I've paid it but I'm not sure how I'd even go about doing that. I certainly don't have the ticket anymore. I have no idea what happened to it. Hell, maybe I paid it, but I seriously doubt that.

Things just kind of get done for me or handed to me most of the time. People misread me. People say I have a presence. I also have very organized and stable and loving parents. It's not just that I'm spoiled though. The fact is, if things aren't done for me, they just plain don't get done. I once went a whole summer getting paid WAY less than I earned because I didn't bother to fill out my time sheets. I didn't know how and it didn't occur to me to ask, and I always forgot anyway. I took the hit. I always take the hit.

Sometimes I think, if someone pushed me into traffic, I might not have the presence of mind to get out of the way.

So where do I go from here? How did I get so far off course? How do I get back on track?

Ugh, same here People always say I'll get far if I just "apply" myself... LOL. I don't know what they mean-I apply myself as much as I can to things, and sometimes just drift off from it. I cannot figure out how to stay focused on the things that don't interest me, and having to budget and all... that sure as heck isn't something I can figure out how to balance either.

I think it has to do with prioritizing... which I completely lack. I'll sit around and play the same damn game I've been playin for a month before I bother to open up my mail (if I even remember I got mail) and see if there is anything important in it.

Regarding the taxes thing, maybe your parents could kind of help with that? It sounds like your taxes should be "simple" to file. Unfortunately I have no idea how to do taxes, but my mom takes the stuff to an attorney who does taxes for people, and they mail back stuff to sign and throw in the mail. It costs close to $50, but I get way more than that back, so it's worth it. I'm just scared you're going to get in trouble

I know what you mean with everything. If I let myself think about it, I can get really depressed about my life. Everyone's married, knows what they're doing, etc.

Oh, yeah... In another topic (about AS quizzes) I opined that I had found my tribe. Absolutely!!

It's weird... it's like the only thing I'm good at in life is showing potential. I actually have excelled in school and have an engineering degree... Honors Society and everything. But at the age of 47 I'm driving an 18-wheeler to support my family. We don't own our home, we have no savings, I drive a 1987 Ford LTD rustwagon... basically I've accomplished nothing. I've had to borrow money from my 89-year old mother to pay bills. Have you any ****ing clue how humiliating that is??! !

Someone mentioned taxes; I should be bitching about the confiscatory tax rates for upper income payers but no... I'm filling out the forms for the Earned Income Credit.

Some days I would consider offing myself... except I have no Life Insurance and I could never leave my family in even more poverty. So I plod along accumulating debt and bewildering my relatives.

I've never felt like a grown-up.

I'm glad that I may have finally figured out what's wrong with me but I'm not exactly sure what to do with this information.

ugh, my bf's family pays all my bills. It's horrible, I feel awful if I actually need to go to the doctor or something and will often let it get so out of hand I have to go to the E.R., just trying to not put more expenses on them from medicines and doctor visits.

Tomorrow, I already have the whole morning planned to go things squared away to start college on Monday... only because my boyfriend is going to accompany me to each place I have to go. ARGH! I have a damn babysitter, lol... but if I didn't, chances are, I wouldn't do it at all.

That is how I feel. I am smart. I have a 3.8 GPA in college. I have had a job since I was 15. But I have always felt at odds with my age. When I was young people said how mature I was. Now that I am older I feel that my maturity stopped when I was 16. I tend to think of myself as being exactly the same as I was when I was 16. Working, going to school, the same thing I do today. The only jobs that I have had were sure ins, ones from family friends.
Except for one job that involved my obsession at the time. Retail work selling Warhammer game toys. I was basically asked to apply for the job, while at the store to play a game. Being me I couldn't say no thanks and so applied. It was so hard for me to turn in my 2 weeks notice at the library, I felt like I was betraying them. I ended up getting the job for a year before being fired for not wanting to move up into manager position. I still have no idea what made me take that job being so out of my normal comfort zone other than it involved Warhammer.
Heck, I currently work with my Dad and brother doing computer programming. It sounds nice and I make 25k a year. I can't really complain, except that I know I could do better, I just have no idea how to do it. I am 25 years old, still living in my parent's basement with no long term goals. My one brother has his own house is going to be getting married soon. My younger sister has been married for 2 years already and will be having a baby soon. MY younger brother is being interviewed for becoming a county policeman. I am half-heartedly going to college to get an accounting degree, but I don't have a career goal in mind when I get it. I don't really feel any desire to get my own place. I can't even imagine the changes that I would have to make to live on my own. I could handle the daily things, but not being around my family would basically leave me sitting in my place completely alone. I think at times the little interaction that I have from my family is all that keeps me going. I feel like I need someone to hand me a step by step guide for my own life.

Sorry for rambling again. When I start typing all this junk just starts falling out.

I didn't make it past the age of IV; what did you have then?

I got some action figures....

Yeah i definately feel like i'm behind.
Now at 22 i'm only achieving the things most did at 18-20 unfortunately.
However it's better to be late, than to never get there at all

Education wise yes, I learn differently than most people aspie and NT alike.
Life wise probably not, I've had a lot of experience most people don't go through.

I pushed myself to grow and keep going ignoring problems I need help with and thus the miscommunication and chaos took over a good part of my teenage hood. I've been in denial and a good liar to myself, why not everything is objective? How I personally do something, wait I don't personally do anything. That was a huge setback I'm seeing now as I recover from my past.

I can't hold a job currently either, for someone so genius it really shows. No HS, no job. Living off taxes, I tell you thats quality. Than again, I've never believed that a piece of damn paper saying you've been "educated" tells you how much you know and how well you know it or how well you can debate it, how reasonable and capable you are.

Education and intelligence are worlds apart and people fail to see this difference.

Behind in social whatever, god yes. I'm so behind its ridicules.
Life's a blur, I fail to catch it.
Every damn time.

Kind of, sometimes. But on the plus side I look like I'm the age I feel I should be. If you see what I mean.

Hi!! ! I have an extraordinary potential for many things too!! ! and can't really feel I grown up!! ! anyway life is very good and I really like to be aspie!! ! But, obviously we must improve our potencial, and here is really a good place to start doing it!! !

Man, I think you are great! I am between 13-17, and you are probably a WP record, or even a world record!

I believe all animals and all men only really learn new things when they are young; babies learn very much, children learn a lot, and youngs can even learn, and this happen to all mammals and birds, but old animals learn no more.

I believe in fact human species differs from the other by its abillitie to retain childhood, man are, in a sense, babies for ever...

Another thing is that old people, as old animals are very borowing and "angry"... well, I really like aspies!! !

I'm doing alright as far as career goes. I'm 28, and I'll have my PhD by the time I'm 31 or 32 or so, which is a decent age. I'm not worried about getting an academic job; I've got the connections, and I anticipate having two, maybe three publications (solo, at that!), possibly more, by the time I'm on the market.

But I ain't got no girlfriend... I've gone as long as three years with zero dates, and everytime I would get the beginnings of a relationship, the girl either turned out to be crazy (I've found that Aspies can be real bad at recognizing red flags that are obvious to everyone else), or I would force myself to end it out of ethical reasons, having known from the beginning it ought not to have been. I'm waiting for the right woman... because I want to be married someday. Kids? Eh... depends on how she feels about it, I guess. But I want a wife.

I don't drive, either.

But, I've been living on my own since the age of 26. I tell you, it's one of the best things that can happen to a young man, especially if he's been stuck at home into his mid twenties. Moving from one city to another, far enough out of your parents' orbit to be totally independent!

But I'd give anything to have a woman.

Man, it i probably very easy!! !

Enter at a gymnasium and do dayly many exercises, your body will change and many women will love it;I said MANY, be sure of this!! !