I tend to concur with those who wonder whether something else is going on besides (or instead of) AS.
Most Aspies, as has already been pointed out, have enough trouble finding and holding down one relationship, never mind put successful effort into getting laid, cheating and so on. We simply struggle too much with the nuances of flirting and sending and receiving the cryptic signals used by NTs in the early stages of developing a sexual encounter or romantic relationship. A sense of isolation may result in a perceived need, and many of us make a (typically clumsy and embarrassing) effort, but most of us are more likely to complain of isolation than get into trouble for lying and cheating. Most of us lack the social skills to be effective manipulators.
I did have someone come on to me, pretty blatantly, when I was in a relationship some years ago, which I mishandled by trying not to hurt anybody, but I'd regard that as an exceptional event.
It's also worth making a distinction between masking AS (which some of us are better at than others, and those who are holding down jobs and relationships tend to fall into the better category) and successfully lying to cover misdeeds, which most of us are pretty poor at.
I don't want to contradict a formal diagnosis, but much feels off about this situation.
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17 Jun 2017, 5:15 pm
