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01 Jan 2018, 3:52 pm

I feel very visible by all the wrong people, unfortunately.

I seem to be a magnet for psychopaths.


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01 Jan 2018, 4:31 pm

babybird wrote:
I feel very visible by all the wrong people, unfortunately.

I seem to be a magnet for psychopaths.


I tend to be a magnet for narcissistic people. I try my best to avoid them once their true colors show.



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01 Jan 2018, 8:09 pm

You need to run like your bum is on fire.



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01 Jan 2018, 10:14 pm

Sometimes I wish I could be invisible. It depends on the situation, but most times I feel that other people (usually other women) are paying too close attention to me (searching for imperfections or ammunition for future gossip).

Attention hogs are a welcomed distraction for me because no one is paying attention to me. I don't keep up with pop culture or watch TV, so I have a hard time thinking if things to say that would be interesting to others.

However, being invisible with my family would be painful. I'm sorry that they are not taking time to appreciate you and your accomplishments. Hopefully, they don't realize that they are hurting your feelings.



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02 Jan 2018, 2:41 pm

Idiosyncratic wrote:
Sometimes I wish I could be invisible. It depends on the situation, but most times I feel that other people (usually other women) are paying too close attention to me (searching for imperfections or ammunition for future gossip).

Attention hogs are a welcomed distraction for me because no one is paying attention to me. I don't keep up with pop culture or watch TV, so I have a hard time thinking if things to say that would be interesting to others.

However, being invisible with my family would be painful. I'm sorry that they are not taking time to appreciate you and your accomplishments. Hopefully, they don't realize that they are hurting your feelings.


Women do love looking for imperfections and juicy gossip. Women will misinterpret things you say or they invent stuff to create division between other people. When I was in high school, girls were quick to notice when I forgot to shave my legs for gym class. All I have to do is exist and women invent rumors about me.

I don't think my grandparents or my aunt care how I feel. My siblings and I are not a priority for them.



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02 Jan 2018, 3:13 pm

That's why I don't gel with women. They are always looking for something to pick at.



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02 Jan 2018, 4:57 pm

HistoryGal wrote:
That's why I don't gel with women. They are always looking for something to pick at.


Same here.



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03 Jan 2018, 10:19 pm

ladyelaine wrote:
HistoryGal wrote:
That's why I don't gel with women. They are always looking for something to pick at.


Same here.


I second this.


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04 Jan 2018, 3:34 pm

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^ That is tough, when it's family, as opposed to a social situation. I often feel that way with my family - that other people's interests are worth talking about, but mine are stupid and dorky and I just have to keep quiet.

I was thinking more of a public setting, in which case I want to be as invisible as possible!


That's exactly how I feel with my family, like everyone else has acceptable interests that are okay to talk about, but the minute I bring mine up, I'm "obsessing" and "need to change the subject so people will want to talk to me". It makes me angry that it feels like everything I like, do, or am, is diminished because I'm "the disabled one" in my family.


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04 Jan 2018, 6:01 pm

StarTrekker wrote:
Ashariel wrote:
^ That is tough, when it's family, as opposed to a social situation. I often feel that way with my family - that other people's interests are worth talking about, but mine are stupid and dorky and I just have to keep quiet.

I was thinking more of a public setting, in which case I want to be as invisible as possible!


That's exactly how I feel with my family, like everyone else has acceptable interests that are okay to talk about, but the minute I bring mine up, I'm "obsessing" and "need to change the subject so people will want to talk to me". It makes me angry that it feels like everything I like, do, or am, is diminished because I'm "the disabled one" in my family.


My grandparents give all their attention to my aunt. She parties a lot and is married to a lawyer. My siblings and I aren't that exciting. My aunt always has to be the center of attention. She has no interest in me or my siblings.



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04 Jan 2018, 7:57 pm

I like being invisible and let people leave me alone. Except Special Olympics, that's nice.



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04 Jan 2018, 8:31 pm

To the Star Trek poster, I'd listen to you talk about it. I'm not really a fan but could be interested.