ASDers with partners, how did you meet?

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MrsPeel
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09 Jan 2019, 4:29 pm

Met my husband at university. He and I were always late to the morning lectures, once we both arrived about 10 minutes into the lecture and got completely lambasted by an irate lecturer. That was around the time hubby-to-be started talking to me, I think.

Met previous boyfriend at uni, too, he was in the same tutoring group. Before that, I met a boyfriend on the school bus, and later went out with his friend, who I met at a party.

Looking back, it seems like it was easier to get to know guys when I was in my late teens and early twenties. In those days, we were all young and single and had lots of free time, but as people get older they get too busy to just hang out together.



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09 Jan 2019, 5:25 pm

I met my only ex-girlfriend at a high-functioning ASD-oriented activity meeting. We had the relationship from April 2015 to May 2016.



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09 Jan 2019, 10:37 pm

I met my husband at college (which in Australia just means the residential accommodation at a university, it's not what Americans call college), but I only became friends with him because I thought he had a girlfriend. He's NT.


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10 Jan 2019, 10:53 am

On an art website.


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10 Jan 2019, 12:51 pm

ToughDiamond wrote:
Northeastern292 wrote:
OkCupid.

Speaking of which, why is this not in the L&D subforum?


In a thread called "I hate stereotypes," there was some talk about the stereotyped places where people are supposed to meet partners and the reluctance of many ASDers to go there. Then somebody suggested a thread could be started asking where ASDers met their partners, to reassure people here that they don't really have to go to the stereotyped places. As I thought that was a good idea and I was in a good mood, I started the thread. It was a tad against my usual ways to do so because I'm reluctant to initiate anything, and the few threads I've previously started here have had very few replies, but I like pushing the envelope so I thought I'd give it a whirl, and just look at all these lovely responses :-) You're correct that technically it would be neater if I'd put it in the Love & Dating subforum, but people do sometimes love-related questions in the General forum and they seem to get away with it. I think it's also possible that a lot of ASDers with partners don't often visit the L&D subforum (I don't myself), and maybe putting it here got the reply count up. I won't be upset if the mods move it now. The topic has had a good enough airing to prove its original point and to allow me to surpass my hitherto weak performance as a starter of popular threads, though I can't take credit for the original idea.

Thanks for all the replies, folks. It's good to see that we can be successful in such an important walk of life by doing things our way and not by just copying the mainstream stereotype for once.


Very good point.