Some of the traits of Aspies are:
* despite a desire for friends, difficulty in initiating or maintaining close relationships
* perceived to be cold-hearted and self-centered, unfriendly
* socially awkward (inability to socialize) (severe impairment in reciprocal social interaction)
* difficulty with nonverbal communication (hand gestures, facial expression, body language, eye-to-eye gaze)
* does not understand conventional social rules (have problems with following social conventions such as respecting another person's physical space, speaking loudly in quiet places) * does not understand the use of gestures or sarcasm (may not understand the subtleties of language, such as irony and humor)
* shows a lack of empathy (difficulty understanding others’ feelings, difficulty communicating feelings)
* unaware of others’ thoughts, feelings, desires, intentions or perceptions resulting in inadvertently appearing rude or inconsiderate
One of the lessons in life that I have learned after being married to an NT (an extreme extrovert) for around 45 years now, is that there are 3 dates you commit to memory. They must always be celebrated.
These are your spouse's birthday, the date of your marriage and Valentines Day.
It is just the way it is. Don't question it, just do it. It will all make sense in the end.
There are many males on Wrong Planet that constantly complain that they are unable to find girls to date, to love, and possibly someday marry. This is a day you can attempt to make a connection. It is socially acceptable to give them a card, a bouquet of flowers or box of chocolates. It is a symbol of LOVE.