Term 'high-functioning autism' should be scrapped

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I definitely have IADL issues. I can budget fine and save money but it causes me stress and I end up being a saver and I get anxiety about spending and hate surprises. So my husband took over the finances. He used to tell me I live like we are poor. But watch Extreme Cheapskate, I look normal.

Job hunting it hard because I have a hard time knowing how to break it up into small steps. I also have troubles making friends and I don't know what to do with them. Shopping, that depends. My husband does most of it and when I had a routine, I always got the same foods with some extra if I saw something I liked or wanted to try. Making appointments and phone calls, very hard and difficult. Housework, hard to keep up with kids and I get mad at them if they make messes and I toss things out now I see laying out to break them into cleaning up after themselves. I kept my stuff picked up at their age so I see no reason why they should be making messes and leaving it. I get overwhelmed from too many tasks. I was better when I had no kids because I had less work to do and I didn't have other peoples messes to deal with.

I also notice even allistic people struggle with IADL too because how else do you explain their dirty homes and their poor money management, their bad hygiene, and of course keeping their house clean with kids. My mom had no problems with that so she also doesn't buy how a parent can't keep the house clean with kids.