Why do people think solitude is such a bad thing?

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You get the colouring done/accomplished.

And you get to leave people alone and be out of the way doing something independent rather than hogging people's time.

99% of people in the general population might be NT. But I don't choose to spend time with 99% of the population. And 99% of the population isn't in my family...

When I was at uni with intelligent people, this didn't come up. Same as at sixth form. When I was at school, it came up but only in the final years when my mum put me into the wrong school. When I was in the world of volunteering, it came up because I was around people who weren't very bright (when they staffed libraries with volunteers they got rid of any kind of qualifications you might need to be an assistant).

People need to learn to leave other people alone unless they want to work on an activity together which is a mutual interest of theirs.

Two boring people make friends. So what? That doesn't actually achieve anything. One boring person pesters a person who's busy = creating a problem.

There's a massive difference between solitude most of the time, and all of the time.

In general I just wish people would leave me alone. But I know if they actually did, I'd probably go completely crazy within a matter of months.

The lone time gives me the strength to get through the shared times. But the shared time also helps me get through the lone times, even if it doesn't always feel like it.

I like interacting with people - well, some people - but it's tiring. Doesn't mean it isn't healthy or necessary. There's a serious risk that when my parents die I'll have no-one to have an in-depth conversation with at all, and that's really scary.

Careful what you wish for!

^^ That reminds me of a retiring actress who is frequently quoted as saying "I vant to be alone." She actually said "I vant to be left alone." One such lady was living on the fringes of an artistic/rural community with a decent view. Not wanting to be recognized, she wore the standard Hollywood disguise of big hats, collars, and scarves, etc when going to the local general store. We don't know who she was, but if she'd worn a checkered shirt and no makeup like the locals, we'd have noticed nothing at all.

I remember being sent to summer camp for two weeks around age ten. One evening, we had a "treasure hunt" - we had to search the woods for yellow-painted rocks, which could be traded for supper. I heard later that there were good options on the menu that night. I started out behind the others, trying to search more thoroughly, but I soon realized that there was no rule about actually finding any and going to the mess hall. I enjoyed two hours of solitude in the cabin, and didn't even miss dinner.

Some jobs telecommute.

"Silence is golden"

"Loose lips sink ships"

"Actions speak louder than words"

Solitude could be good, bad, both, or neither

Why people think solitude is bad it's because do not understand solitude.

It was then assumed the best path of living is to not take a break, or even consider constant social simulation as the only and/or ideal form of self care.

It was then times where extroversion is assumed to be associated with being attuned with emotions, certain notion of how one should live and all those achiever stuff.

It was then the common misunderstandings of solitude as a form of mental health symptoms; isolation, withdrawal, lack of maturity or adaptive skills, etc.



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People think solitude is bad because it can cause permanent psychological harm to normal people. There are laws that limit the amount of solitary confinement time a prison can use on it's prisoners. There are many incidents that tell of how a man has changed after being in solitary confinement to long.

There are stories that talk about men being removed from society to long. How many stories include a crazy hermit who lives in a cave? Think about tales of the crazy old miner 49'er who has been digging for gold to long by himself.

Some people can't live with themselves so they surround themselves with others.

I know that when I do something I thought was bad, I tend to surround myself with others or with irrelevant distractions like music in order to handle the guilt.

I don't think many bullies at school were autistic. It makes sense the bullies have guilt and seek out a gang that tells them not to worry...