15 Dec 2020, 11:28 pm
Joe90 wrote:
Clueless2017 wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
No need to apologise, the way I wrote my post sounded like I'd slept around. I'm not offended at all. It's good to discuss these things. 
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What i wrote above still stands true in the case of many who are unfairly and severely judged (those on the spectrum included)...As i stated above, human beings only see the actions of others and their wrongdoings but not the motives and/or intentions behind these actions...So, the lesson that i learn from this is to restrain myself from judging others...And i also learn that whenever possible, i should give others the benefit of the doubt...
Exactly. To others I might have looked like a slut and there was probably embarrassing rumours among the regular passengers that I slept with the drivers. Like you said, people only judge by what they see, and I don't look autistic at all from the outside so not even a professional autism psychiatrist would have guessed that I was ASD. But I was young (late teens and early 20s) so maybe some of the elderly passengers might have thought "I was like that at that age". So a lot of it was probably due to hormones too. In fact my hormones controlled me when I was a teenager, and the obsession I had with some guy when I was 14 was WORSE than the bus-driver obsession.
This guy (in his 30s) was a bit chavvy and dealt with it very immaturely. He saw me many times walking to school, in school uniform, so he knew full well that I was just a silly schoolgirl, but he reacted like I was some adult creep, and his chavvy girlfriend almost threatened to beat me up. I mean, this guy wasn't a paedophile and if she loved him that much surely she'd know that he would never run off with me.
If some local 14-year-old girl developed a crush on my boyfriend and kept hanging around near our apartment and wasn't doing drugs or anything, I'd just think that is cute, because I know that my boyfriend would never look at a teenage girl.
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Interesting point...In the case of autism, it is not something that visibly shows...Like when a woman is well into her pregnancy and it shows...Or, like when somebody was injured and is forced to use crutches or a wheelchair...In these cases, the limitations are quite visible to everyone...And so, generally speaking, people try to show them empathy...Sadly not all ailments (for lack of a better term) are as obvious...So, people easily judge and sometimes severely...Anyway, i went off topic...Oops!! !...
16 Dec 2020, 6:15 am
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