who here battles low self-esteem?

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I reckon I have low self esteem even though I'm not too sure what it actually means

Full Definition of self-esteem
1 : a confidence and satisfaction in oneself : self-respect
2 : self-conceit

Lack of confidence has been a lifelong impairment for me. Since my diagnosis, it is much improved but still not where it should be.

I feel like I have had low self esteem for a long time. However you can't measure self esteem. It is not the more the better. Maybe everyone else just has too much self esteem.

However I don't "battle" it. Sometimes I indulge in it and sometimes I ignore it

Something good in one situation could be bad in a different situation

Nobody perfect

You can't measure the size of a character flaw

Academic dismissal
Occupational redundancy
Autism
Homophobia

Also plenty of precious lil "people" appear to esteem themselves a lot more than a justified amount, according to my worthless corpse's standards


Thin line between love and hate

And I hate everyone else even more than I hate myself

(Shift the coordinate axis)

Can't things be fixed? in your life....Or have you given up all hope.

square pegs aspie meetup, it was called. but the founder seemed a bit ashamed of being associated with lower-functioning types, it used to be a mutual support group but he changed it to a fun get-together for aspies of accomplishment. i didn't know about that last part [doesn't say that in the group description] until i got there. i used to belong to a genuine aspie mutual support group but it disbanded several years back.

i suppose if one sees oneself as a cut-above one's nominal peers, one may have high self-esteem.

Who doesn't battle low self-esteem at/in various times and settings? Not even the rich and the famous are immune to it.

The day I move back to Europe my self-esteem will probably take a massive hit. All my peers will have more money, bigger houses and snazzier titles on their business cards. And I will have zero use of what I've learnt abroad. Not looking forward to that day, but it'll probably be the best for my child. Otherwise her only option is to stay in Japan forever and assimilate into the mass.

nobody sees the beautiful people having a bad day.

You're right. The rich and the famous sometimes struggle with low self-esteem so badly that they turn to drugs and even suicide.

The desire for wealth is also a sign of low self-esteem.

I thought it was a sign of greed.

Rich people don't look look like they have low-self esteem.

Greed, but then what are they greedy for? Accumulating material because having more means they must be better (due to low self-esteem), or feeling secure by desiring an unnecessary amount of things (and not feeling secure in themselves, due to low self-esteem).

If wanting things outside of yourself gives you value, it's because you don't like yourself. But, you must convince others you like yourself, or they will see you don't like yourself, and then know how deeply inferior you feel, which will confirm this view.

seems self-esteem is also linked to one's position on maslow's hierarchy of needs pyramid.

My self-esteem can be very low at times.

situational or existential?