What's your least favorite neurotypical saying?

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"God/Jesus loves you" Sure has a funny way of showing it.

"God has big plans for you" Like what, a surprise party?

"The good die young" So bad people are going to live forever, I guess.

"99% will get this wrong/ignore this post" See this on Facebook all the time.

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" Words hurt you a lot worse.

"To err is human" Well duh!

"Honesty is the best policy" not when the entire world runs on dishonesty, it doesn't.

"Be yourself", only allowed if "yourself" is like everyone else.

I don't think there's too much difference between "neurotypical" and whatever "we" are called when it comes to the use of language (I'm pretty typical to be honest). I guess you'd mean in common parlance. I can't say I have a least favorite one because I don't really care too much about how language is used other than if it can convey what the speaker wants to relay. I can dislike the meaning, but how it gets there doesn't matter too much to me. Inflection matters too of course, as that can change meaning entirely.

I will say this, I'm not a fan of ambiguity. If a certain phrase is ambiguous, then I'll dislike it if it's meant to get a point across to me. This could be an Autistic thing (I'm sure it is).

"Get a job, any job, you must work not scrounge off the government"

OK this applies to some people who literally are capable and have no mental or physical difficulties but are just lazy. But not everyone. There used to be a member here who would lecture anyone here who got disability and didn't work, or who were on unemployment benefits. He was like "you can still do anything despite your autism/anxiety/depression/ADHD/learning difficulties, like cleaning or working at a grocery store, your diagnosis is no excuse to not work, blah blah blah".
I actually think that mental health can sometimes be more disabling than physical health when it comes to work. A person in a wheelchair could do office work. A person with autism or learning difficulties or mental health challenges could find some of the most easiest jobs mentally overwhelming. To me, people with autism and other neurological disorders or mental health issues do deserve financial support as much as the physically disabled.

"My word" and "No words" could be replaced with what the reader actually thinks or feels, rather than coming across as speechless and unable to articulate their reaction to whatever it is they have "no words" or "my word" towards. It's a canned, overused, template response that shows laziness. Why bother even posting if you can't articulate, via keyboard, how you feel or what you think (of the story they just read that they have "no words") for?

Same with the VERY OVERUSED and unoriginal "Wow, just wow." It’s a lazy remark because it requires no thought, yet at the same time, it implies that the reader does, in fact, have opinions on whatever it is that brought him or her to this almost-speechlessness.

This phrase can mean a ton of reactions…all diluted into a single three-word cliché. Richer responses to a shocking or incredible article or video can be written in place of this tiresome, witless, herd mentality three-word phrase.

Same with "sad." THAT'S all you have to say after reading about a car accident that killed an entire family? Really? Like, NO KIDDING, OF COURSE IT'S SAD! Like, could it be ANYTHING ELSE???? What does the poster of one little word, "Sad," hope to accomplish? How about posting something insightful if you're going to post anything at all? When I leave comments to "Sad" stories, my comments show thought and reflection -- but not the tiresome NT dribble such as "Oh so sorry, my prayers are with you." Instead, I'll say something like, "Drunken driving first offense should be a mandatory five years imprisonment and $5,000 fine." Second offense leading to a death? Life in prison. In countries with the harshest drunk driving penalties, drunk driving is extremely rare."

"Haters gonna hate." Another overused, template that reflects the inability to think insightfully. What's the objective of posting this, other than to show lack of ability to articulate and/or propensity to make wrong assumptions. I don't "hate" someone just because I criticized their singing.

"There's plenty more fish in the sea."

"Worse things happen at sea."

Can I throw them in the sea?

Chill out

My bad

That's what it means and I don't have a problem with it. Sometimes, it's true. Things are out of our control and there's nothing we can do about them. At least this expression acknowledges that a problematic situation exists, instead of wishing it away.

"too bad". Urgh, so rude and dismissive!

the very concept of "free will."

"Build a bridge and get over it."
My sister said this to me when I was in hospital with depression.

"Get a life."
Not said to me but I've heard it used many times to the point where I think it's just mean.

I hate it when people say this, as there is no nice way to say it and is just so insulting.

The only people who deserve this being said to them are hackers that hack into your Facebook for no particular reason except to cause inconvenience for you and your friends.

Time's marching on.
Time's marching on.

NO IT ISN'T.

What do you mean by 'it isnt'?

Of course time is in fact "marching on".

“Can't you get over it without medication?”for ADHD

So what do you think I was doing in the past?

I mean, it isn't literally marching on. Yes, time is passing, but people (usually my mother) always say this when I am not doing something as quickly as they would like for me to be doing it. Telling me that time is passing, even in a metaphorical way, is extremely unhelpful to me. Especially when I'm in the midst of executive dysfunction, which is usually when she uses this phrase.

"Is there anything I can do to help you manage the time?" would be much more welcome.

Or even, "There are 15 minutes before we have to leave. Is there anything I can help you with?"

I've never heard anyone say that time is marching on. I keep seeing a clock with boots where it's hands should be.