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RainSong
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18 Aug 2007, 7:37 pm

9CatMom wrote:
The worst is from myself.


Likewise. I'm always more critical of myself than anyone else.

I think the worst I've ever gotten only sort of pertained to AS. It was at one of the earlier debate club meetings; one of the guys turned around and said, "Hey, quiet girl, put down your book." When I asked why, he said, "So you can talk to us." I explained that I would talk when I felt like it, and I preferred reading, then returned to said activity. (Why I joined debate club is beyond me - it wasn't the best idea.) Anyway, later on we were allowed to give "speeches" on anything.

He got up and gave a five minute plus speech on why quiet people are oppressed and depressed and much more interesting than other people, but they were oppressed and depressed and so forth (it was pretty repetitive). He went on about "inner torture" and "ripped souls"; it was so embarrassing. He looked straight at me (very pointedly - others commented on it) the entire speech; the only reason he stopped when he did was because I told him "Ok, you've had your say," and explained why I was (am) quiet.

Afterwards, he came up to me and said, "So you can't talk?"


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18 Aug 2007, 7:41 pm

Do you ever think before you speak?



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31 Aug 2007, 11:55 pm

My mother once said that she didn't care what disability I had; even ret*d people knew how to treat people with respect, or something to that effect. As if I was using AS as an excuse for treating her bad! :D :P


Two other times in similar situations: "I don't care what you have" said as though she really believed that I was using that as an excuse (her extroverted depression was really clouding her judgement and/or restraint) and "I don't care what you've got!" said with even more derision, about a week later.



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01 Sep 2007, 12:04 am

I was told my icon envoked bad feelings in that person responding to my post, he/she had something that caused images to invoke some emotion er somethin, i forget what they called it, i like my 'con!


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01 Sep 2007, 2:39 am

girl7000 wrote:
"Are you disturbed or something?" (rhetorical question)
"Are you sick?" (rhetorical question)

"You're EVIL, EEEEEEEVVVVVVIIIIIIILLLL."yeees YEEESS wanna see when i call satan? :twisted: (start talking some spell what would seem to call satan)

"I gave you life, I can take it away."

"You're psycho" YES and bad one(remember to but some ants in his bed)
All courtesy of my mother.


i think he is a cristian i hate that kind of of humans i love to teace em



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29 Sep 2007, 12:33 pm

Once at a St. Patrick's Day parade, my mother saw this little girl who looked a little like me, and she was smiling and waving at people. I was having fun too; I was talking to people and watching the parade and not complaining or saying or doing anything bad! When she saw that little girl, she said in a mournful voice that all she ever wanted was to have a normal child!


UGH!



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29 Sep 2007, 12:43 pm

Ana54 wrote:
My mother saw this thread and shouted at me, hurt and angry, "I didn't say that!"


I was high. Down I went. But I'm still okay. :D


They never do remember, do they?

I've managed to repress a LOT of childhood memories about how I was treated, and when I try to address the stuff I DO remember, my mom claims "it never happened," or (like Ana's mom) "I never said that!"

It is so frustrating, isn't it??

I remember, I was there.

I remember being called, lazy, ret*d, uncaring, and for some reason, my father thought I was gay!? I'm still baffled about that one....


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29 Sep 2007, 7:09 pm

9CatMom wrote:
"You're hopeless" (From a school psychologist)


High School councilors are the best aren't they?! We were once discussing University and mine said, "OK, I'm only going to say this once. You will NEVER get into University for [my chosen subject]! You should seriously consider community college. [note: there is nothing wrong with CC :) they just didn't have my program.]"

It became a serious issue. I did get in and did well but sometimes wonder whether I pushed my subject as much as I did because people said I couldn't do it. Is extreme stubbornness an AS thing? :lol:

But the worst is the constant refrain: "What is wrong with you?!"


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29 Sep 2007, 7:22 pm

My aunt - "There's nothing wrong with you! You're just a spoiled little brat who doesn't want to do anything with your life & you want your mommy to take care of you forever!"

Kids at school used to say I was "scary" "weird" "a freak" "ret*d" "lesbian"

My mom's ex-boyfriend also called me a spoiled little brat, & a psycho. He also called me some words I probably shouldn't post on this board because younger kids read it.

I also hate it when people tell me "Grow up! you're too big to be playing with dolls & stuffed animals!"

I plan to still play with dolls & stuffed animals when I'm a crazy old lady with thousands of cats! :lol:



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30 Sep 2007, 5:32 am

i have been called a retartet thousand times by girls -.- :?



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30 Sep 2007, 6:09 am

my mom is always forgeting what she says and then accusing me or making it up or telling me to grow up and get over it already because that was TEN YEARS ago, as if that is somehow a factor.

i do well for a while and then laspe back into depession and function less, and so on. and she was mad because i don't progress continuously and always go backwards at some point.

"I AM SO TIRED OF WALKING ON EGGSHELLS AROUND YOU, YOU ALWAYS GET UPSET, AND I CAN NEVER EXPRESS HOW I FEEL BECAUSE EVERYTHING I ASK YOU IS THE WRONG THING AND I AM TIRED OF IT BECAUSE I AM UPSET ALL THE TIME TOO, SO YOU JUST HAVE TO START MAKING MORE OF AN EFFORT BECAUSE I CAN'T DEAL WITH IT ANYMORE, I HAVE 2 OTHER CHILDREN TO WORRY ABOUT AND YOU ARE AN ADULT NOW AND HAVE BEEN FOR SOME TIME... YOU KNOW SOMETIMES I THINK IT WOULD BE SO MUCH EASIER TO HAVE A CHILD THAT HAD DIED INSTEAD OF YOU, BECAUSE I CAN'T GRIEVE BECAUSE YOU ARE STILL ALIVE BUT JUST STAGNATING, SO I CAN NEVER GET OVER IT I HAVE TO BE DEPRESSED ABOUT YOU CONSTANTLY..."

and at the begining of this phone conversation i was totally confused because i wasn't even mad or sad or upset or anything, but by the time she got to the part about how it would be better for me to die because her life would be easier, well that was SUPER-fun.

but that was a whole 2 years ago, so i'm sure i should be over it by now.


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30 Sep 2007, 9:44 am

I hadn't spoken to any family members (with good cause) for a long time before I got the diagnosis and have no plans to speak to any of them again, but they were in the habit of saying truly uplifting things ANYWAY, for example:

Mother: "If I were you, I would have been found floating facedown in the canal long ago" (Curious turn of phrase, considering her mother was a suicide, by hanging?)
Father: "I am going to HOUND YOU INTO THE GRAVE" (Apparently, he got there first after all. Oh well, I suppose you can't always get what you want?)

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30 Sep 2007, 10:59 am

My father has called me a parasite a few times. The tacky part of it is that he definitely has a lot of autistic traits of his own. But like a lot of people (and like myself), he is far too frustrated and bewildered by my amotivation and poor executive functions to interpret it as anything other than monstrous laziness and a character flaw.

It's really difficult to navigate the minefield of "using x as an excuse for doing y." I'm sure there's a grain of truth to that perception, but it isn't the whole story (or even the best interpretation).



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30 Sep 2007, 11:14 am

um....

"addlepated nitwit"
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"borderline ret*d"

fun fun...



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30 Sep 2007, 12:46 pm

I've not had really bad things said about my condition. Two things that really annoy me though are either "you need to try harder, you aren't trying" (as in: you don't really have AS the problem is you'r enot trying your best) from my sister, and my old support worker repeatedly claiming that I suffer from AS and using arguments like AS causing me to need support, to ground her statements on. This is particularly hurtful cause- I used to think this'd be one of few support workers open to neurodiversity, and I still really like this support worker.



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30 Sep 2007, 12:48 pm

I got "nerd" and "loser" (ESPECIALLY "loser") by most my peers when growing up. Of course, the more popular the socialites were, the more vicious they were with their attacks. Organized brigades of teenage girls who circle you just to cast insults... my parents never understood why I didn't want to go to school (because I was sooo smart!) and surely I was exaggerating my experiences with these kids. Noone truly believes me - kids never act like that! It's just in my head.

Well, maybe it is now... I can't trust certain women... then again, they haven't changed much either.

One time while getting a lecture from both parents, they said "Just look at his face! He's gotta' be on drugs!!"

And I've been called "gay" several times...


NT's so desperately want to explain away my odd behaviour in a nice, simple, tidy package. I might even be more accepted if I took one of their labels and pretended I was what they called me.

I just refuse to live a lie, even if it means people can't understand me.