SharonB wrote:
^ Use it or lose it?
Thanks. You should have seen me in my theatre classes, I was completely clueless. I was about my daughter's age and we'd do these exercises where the other person had to convince you of an emotion. I would immediately believe my partner, but they wouldn't believe me - I tried a million different variations of vocal tone but it didn't occur to me to vary my facial expression. Eventually I improved through trial and error - or my classmates gave me a pass.
Yes it is definitely use it or lose it.
I'm sure my facial expression is the same all the time. However, the other day I went to coffee with my friend. Some other people were trying to encroach on our seating area, so I said, 'you can sit there but my friend and I are having a deep discussion.'
She was telling me about how decades ago, her sister died mysteriously, either jumped off a building or was pushed. Partly because she is my friend and partly because I wanted to show the encroachers they were encroaching, I put a lot into my tone of voice and expression. To me it felt like I was over-acting with wide eyes, open mouth and lots of comments like, 'oh my god' 'how awful' etc. I even squeezed her hand, because she is a good friend and not a stranger.
But it worked! My friend felt seen and comforted, the encroachers were terribly embarrassed and tried to pretend they weren't listening. Very British.
But I successfully pretended to be 'normal' and react normally! hurrah!
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