Did anyone do anything particularly violent as a child?
My closest brother, who has CP and probably AS, and I got into some major fights growing up. The last one we had was after we'd both started college (he's two years older). I kicked him in the head so hard he started bleeding, oh and he was driving a car at the time of the kicking . I obviously wasn't thinking clearly. We get along fine now. Weird.
My whole family seems to have huge problems with anger management. Either we don't show anger at all or we explode over something seemingly insignificant. I think four out of six of my family members have AS type personalities so I guess the anger issues aren't that unusual.
when i was about 4, i stabbed my stepdad twice in the back with a pencil...it ended up snapping the pencil...to this day there's a round, lumpy scar where one of the cuts was.
he was a real pr ck to my mother at the time, and i guess i just got frustrated with seeing my mother [psychologically] hurt so often.
People bullied me for mainly my race/ethnicity (Sandn*gger, raghead, and just plain n*gger. Also extra screening at the airport bc I'm persian) and my orientations (I'm openly gay and poly. Also GQ, but I don't cross dress or anything bc I'm sick of being bullied and I don't rly care anymore)
I've been bullied for EVERY part of me. My race, orientation, and gender like I said, but also my religion (atheist), my vegetarianism, my height and my appearance in general, My AS (duh). That's about all I can think of right now but I know there's more...
Anyway, about being violent...
So this one kid kept calling me fa***t over and over again and he would whisper sexual stuff in my ear and whatnot. Also he kept touching me down there . So one day when he was whispering in my ear, I whirled around, pinned him against the wall, and began to strangle him. I kept strangling him until there was blood coming out of his neck and he had turned this reddish purple color. When his friends pulled me off, he slumped to the floor and I think he fainted . I never got in trouble though!
Another time, in second grade, these three kids were beating me up and they were kicking my legs. I was really scared and I was crying and whatever, so I punched one kid in the stomach and ran away. That I did get in trouble for, but really it was self defense and I was bleeding afterwards and I had bruises on my shins :/
Anyway, now I would NEVER do that because I am a pacifist, but this hasn't brought me very far to be honest
One time, these three boys (NOT the same ones as before) were trying to pull down my pants (more homophobia). I ran, but I tripped and they tackled me, breaking my arm in the process. My mom didn't believe me/didn't care; my dad wanted to call the police but idk it seemed kinda extreme to me at the time (Totally regret not doing that).
I guess it's because I'm gay and so that's why people didn't respond so well. I came out way back in 5th grade and frankly, it was a decision that brought me a lot of stigma, hatred, and bad experience.
And my mom one time grabbed me and choked me back and told me she would do that to me every time I do it to my brother. I never choked him again. She was at her wits end after everything else had failed so she did it to me. It's wasn't uncommon for my mom to do mean things back to me just to show me how it feels.
I remember another time when I was six, I was pinching my brothers and my mom grabbed me and pushed me on the floor and got on top of me and dug her nails into my face as she pinched me screaming "this is how it feels" and I had three scabs on my face.
I always thought she hurt me as a punishment because I was bad. But I was in high school when she told me those were not punishments, it was a lesson to teach me how it feels. She could never get me to stop so she had to show me. I think this is used as the last resort though.
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Daughter: NT, no diagnoses. Possibly OCD. Is very private about herself.
Hmm when I was a kid sometimes I got angry and I lashed out at my siblings, I told them to stop annoying me but they didn't and I hit them. Sprayed hairspray in they're face, pinching, pushing them.
One time at school throwing stones at someone but I missed on purpose.
It sounds a lot but really I only lashed out a few times in my life because people annoyed me and wouldn't stop even when I told them to and warned them I will hit them.
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I've been bullied for EVERY part of me. My race, orientation, and gender like I said, but also my religion (atheist), my vegetarianism, my height and my appearance in general, My AS (duh). That's about all I can think of right now but I know there's more...
Anyway, about being violent...
So this one kid kept calling me fa***t over and over again and he would whisper sexual stuff in my ear and whatnot. Also he kept touching me down there . So one day when he was whispering in my ear, I whirled around, pinned him against the wall, and began to strangle him. I kept strangling him until there was blood coming out of his neck and he had turned this reddish purple color. When his friends pulled me off, he slumped to the floor and I think he fainted . I never got in trouble though!
Another time, in second grade, these three kids were beating me up and they were kicking my legs. I was really scared and I was crying and whatever, so I punched one kid in the stomach and ran away. That I did get in trouble for, but really it was self defense and I was bleeding afterwards and I had bruises on my shins :/
Anyway, now I would NEVER do that because I am a pacifist, but this hasn't brought me very far to be honest
One time, these three boys (NOT the same ones as before) were trying to pull down my pants (more homophobia). I ran, but I tripped and they tackled me, breaking my arm in the process. My mom didn't believe me/didn't care; my dad wanted to call the police but idk it seemed kinda extreme to me at the time (Totally regret not doing that).
I guess it's because I'm gay and so that's why people didn't respond so well. I came out way back in 5th grade and frankly, it was a decision that brought me a lot of stigma, hatred, and bad experience.
Ouch that really sucks. It doesn't matter if your gay you shouldn't be hurt like that; I guess kids pick up on anything but most of them grow up and change. I think anyways.
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Yes, mostly reactionary. One time a guy tipped my desk over, spilling the contents, within a second his throat was in my hands and he had my arm at breaking point and it stopped there. I snapped for half a second, not unlike what others have described here. It wasn't really anger, just a reaction. The bullying stopped afterwards.
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And my mom one time grabbed me and choked me back and told me she would do that to me every time I do it to my brother. I never choked him again. She was at her wits end after everything else had failed so she did it to me. It's wasn't uncommon for my mom to do mean things back to me just to show me how it feels.
I remember another time when I was six, I was pinching my brothers and my mom grabbed me and pushed me on the floor and got on top of me and dug her nails into my face as she pinched me screaming "this is how it feels" and I had three scabs on my face.
I always thought she hurt me as a punishment because I was bad. But I was in high school when she told me those were not punishments, it was a lesson to teach me how it feels. She could never get me to stop so she had to show me. I think this is used as the last resort though.
Yeah, that's child abuse. Your mother sounds like a complete psychopath, no offense.
And my mom one time grabbed me and choked me back and told me she would do that to me every time I do it to my brother. I never choked him again. She was at her wits end after everything else had failed so she did it to me. It's wasn't uncommon for my mom to do mean things back to me just to show me how it feels.
I remember another time when I was six, I was pinching my brothers and my mom grabbed me and pushed me on the floor and got on top of me and dug her nails into my face as she pinched me screaming "this is how it feels" and I had three scabs on my face.
I always thought she hurt me as a punishment because I was bad. But I was in high school when she told me those were not punishments, it was a lesson to teach me how it feels. She could never get me to stop so she had to show me. I think this is used as the last resort though.
Yeah, that's child abuse. Your mother sounds like a complete psychopath, no offense.
It would be child abuse if a parent did it all the time and it's not uncommon for moms to do things back to their kids to show them how it feels. My mom only did this to show me how it feels. She didn't do it all the time and those incidents only happened once because I choked my brother (and had done it so many times before) so she did it to me and I wouldn't stop pinching my brothers so she did it to me. I would use this as the last resort though.
Every parent would be a psychopath if it makes my mother one.
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I wasn't all that violent as a kid and wasn't raised in a violent household, but when I was in my teens I tended to take my rage out on household objects than on people. Like one time I had come home from school in a particularly bad mood and my brother and his friends are being obnoxious as usual, and suddenly I screamed I was going to kill myself. Their reaction was to scream with laughter and repeat what I said mockingly. I then trashed my own bedroom, flinging my stuffed animals everywhere, and hid in the closet until my mother finally came home. Another time one evening my brother naturally wouldn't stop being incredibly annoying and I actually threw a knife at him. It's a good thing I have the worst aim ever and it ended up cutting into the kitchen floor instead.
One time at junior high I wrote a note saying I hated my brother and wanted to kill him. I got rid of the note before anyone else could read it. If I had done that now, I probably would have been suspended from school. Which would have made me glad.
As a child? I never did anything remotely violent. I was an avowed pacifist.
When I was a teenager, around 17 I think, I attacked my mother once when we were having a fight. I thought of it as payback for the years she stood by and did nothing while my father abused me.
*edit* Well, I almost forgot. One time in kindergarten I saw a boy throwing gravel at some kids on the merry go round. For whatever reason I decided to copy him and do the same thing (even after I saw him get in trouble for it). I guess that was violent, but I didn't have any intention of hurting anyone. I didn't really understand what I was doing. I have no idea why I did that.