In what countries are aspies more likely to pass as normal?

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Bozzetta, I had a similar experience. However, after a few years living there, they expect you to have grasped and observe all the unspoken rules. You're not tolerated as a foreigner forever.

In Finland people speak with only slight changes in intonation, they are normally quite quiet although when inebriated they can get a bit over friendly. I general they are logical, kind, and reasonably generous. It seems to me they value being alone and they are generally self reliant. And they respect privacy and order and cleanliness. At least in Helsinki there are no slums. I don't know about the rest of the country. And there are lots of pets so they like animals.

nice to know that germany isn't that bad of a place for aspies. i mean i knew it was better than the US. ive been there for a year (which was a very good experince all in all), but things like having to eat lunch in school together with all the other students and events like prom and homecoming dances almost killed me.

since i was little, i always wanted to move to alaska, and build my own log cabin in the woods were nobody would find me. sadly, that idea isn't very realistc.

does anybody know what Iceland is like? i heard they have a very well running economy now and need people

I am of German descent and very punctual, fact-oriented and perfectionistic. I used to be a lot more perfectionistic when I was younger and got upset easily if I made a mistake. I have largely overcome this, although if I make a very significant, boneheaded mistake most people wouldn't make, I get very embarrassed.

I think the English tend to be reserved as a whole, but those who don't conform have a hard time fitting in there, too. Roger Bannister, for one, had a hard time fitting in at school because he was more academically motivated than the majority of his classmates and was, by his own description, "dreadful at ballgames." He preferred running to rough sports such as rugby, because he was very tall and thin and lacked strength. He was also pilloried in the British press for following his own agenda by training himself, restricting racing opportunities outside of England and, initially, not using a coach. He eventually sought out the help of Franz Stampfl, who mainly advised Bannister on tactic and encouraged him to work with Chris Brasher and Chris Chataway, who became his best friends.

i seem to be doing the nomad thing. have moved a lot and lived in 3 states. i can't do the 'know and be known' thing so people get annoyed with me after a while. maybe a motorhome is the way to go.

i think cities are better than small towns, at least one has anonymity in a city.

The Japanese have a saying that means "If you stand out from the rest, you'll be destroyed". It's the least accepting of difference culture in the world.

How about the Netherlands? I'm part Dutch and always thought a lot of my eccentricity was simply due to that side of my heritage. I've also had a few Dutch friends who have always gotten along great with me. Also, a lot of people think the Dutch are just weird, the most vocal of these are the Dutch themselves. They seem to celebrate strangeness and revel in being just a little bit... off.

Japanese protocol is probably more systematic then westerners. But I assume it can be learnt and remembered systematically. It might give the impression that learning Japanese protocol is difficult.

In Japan even shithouse paper has instructions in how to open it. In Blity you are surpose to use you common sense. But sometime it is hard to understand what common sense is a systematic way. To much things over here are open to miss interpretation because the system is so weak.

Germany and Japan, didn’t they try their luck WWII.

Yes, the saying is about tall poppies.