siuan wrote:
You're up on a soapbox alright. Who said anything about my diet or exercise? My diet is excellent and I exercise regularly. I surf the internet because I'm exhausted and it's an outlet, not because I feel like throwing my time away. And I don't care for being noctournal, but as I mentioned in the OP, I need SOME quiet and it takes me four or five hours to calm down enough to sleep. I didn't need you to point out all the things that are wrong in my life, I'm already acutely aware of the things I need and want to change. If I had given up, I wouldn't be writing this because there would be no point. Do you think I don't miss going to bed with my husband? That's the whole point! If change were so simple, I'd have done it. Perhaps since you have such a gift for identifying the obvious, you can also provide a solution. Though I suspect not. Those who spout off so mightily rarely have a clue about a solution, or they wouldn't be spouting off.
I also mentioned in the post that my marriage ISN'T failing, nor do I have any plans of divorcing my husband. The statistics just seemed bleak and I was commenting on that, in relation to my own experience since stress was cited as the main reason for divorce among parents of autistic children.
If my post seems biting, it is. I have no patience for having what I've already stated spit back at me by someone who thinks they're a know-it-all. My OP was about odds, and how they seem stacked against us. I think you're one of those people who needs to say something even when they have nothing to say due to an exaggerated sense of self-importance. And I'm really in no mood right now.
Do not kid yourself, your post is not biting. What does a person who tells the world that even though she no longer sleeps with her husband, that their love is strong and the marriage is in great shape, really want? Even though the situation that you painted is obviously ridiculous, you seemed to believe that it would find a sympathetic hearing here on WP. Since there is never an end to the whining self pity on WP you might have played the odds well. And because anyone who starts a thread solicits a response, I decided to give you one.
How could you possibly be a good mother and wife if you refuse to get the sleep you need? And if you already know things need to change, what is to stop you from doing so? Why would you need to tell the world about it before you are willing to make the simple changes that can improve the well being of everyone who has no choice but to depend on you? If you are angry because you think that I am speaking down to you, well you are right, I do find what you have described to be pathetic. It is another cry for help from someone who has intentionally rendered herself helpless so as to inspire pity.
10 Jan 2008, 6:36 am
