How often are you lonely?

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I do feel lonely at tyms but as im used 2 it i find it a lot more comfortable 4 meself.

I am lonely in the sense that nearly everybody at my school is a total opposite in terms of interests and beliefs.

Here on WP, I connect with a lot of people, and not lonely when I am on WP>

Tim

Such a strange thing to even think about--- I do miss my BF when he's gone, but i don't usually miss other people too often. At least, not enough to do anything about it. I will go to places where I know others I know will be, but not with the purpose of seeing them. I've tried being better with this, with some effect. But even now, here I sit in front of a computer screen when I could be hanging out with other people. It just doesn't matter so much.
Occasionally, i do feel the need to be with people, but i stick to the ones I know, who accept me and all. then I can email them and stuff.

I've been there numerous times.

Tim

my feeling too ! ! i have kids , and any time i get by myself , i cherish , i now prefer to be alone !

I voted "sometimes".

Most of my life I was constantly lonely. A huge, huge chunk of my life was spent being lonely. Even when I entered my first real long term relationship I was extremely lonely. The guy had a lot of social anxiety like myself, but unlike myself he was very unwilling to work past it. I wanted to go out and about and meet people, within reason of course. I enjoy the occasional very small gathering of friends for short periods of time doing quiet, non sensory overloading type things. He refused to do anything other than stay inside all day and play World of Warcraft and watch South Park. Two years of that got old. Very old.

Now I'm with a somewhat sociable NT. His little brother lives with us, and he's always having his friends over. "Always" being defined as an Aspie would define it, anyway. We visit his relatives regularly, and family friends. We spend a lot of time with our bosses too, who happen to be good friends of ours. We live a people filled life so more often than not I'm usually craving alone time in my bedroom with cable and pot.

My fiance is out right now trying to pick up his first roofing job for the business he and his friend are starting, he's been gone for a few hours so I'm a little lonely right now actually

I keep myself very busy pursuing my interest (which is more or less all I have left). This does not leave me with a lot of time and energy to feel lonely. Moreover, like a lot of people on WP, I have a history of failed friendships. I simply do not relate well to other people. That is, I do not have much in common with most people, and I do not connect with them on an emotional level. As others have noted, it is like living inside a glass box.

I am planning to become one of those crazy old guys who spends his days sitting in the park, feeding the pigeons and squirrels

I feel like I'm locked in a particularly daft looking box with a couple of peep holes drilled in.

I feel lonely when I see people interacting with each other.

It's like repeating my recent break-up many times over.

I'll probably be that lady in the movie, "Home Alone Two" who only communed with pigeons in Central Park and was homeless.

I'm usually lonely. It didn't use to be like that always. I had periods of time in my life when I had close friends, boyfriends, family. Nowadays for some strange reason I'm totally alone.

Same here. I grew up in a large family, but they have all dispersed, and are not good with communication. My child grew up and moved far away, and I lost all my friends when I got sick. Moving out of the state finished it off. I am completely alone. But I don't mind it half as much as I used to.

Well put. I feel alone more often now than I did 5 or 10 years ago. I like being alone. I used to be oblivious to my loneliness. However, events of the past few years along with a cultural emphasis on relationships and fitting in makes matters worse now. I feel more alone when I'm with a room full of people like I did this past holiday week. That's one reason why I love NYC so much. It's OK to be alone in the city. You can be surrounded by people and do things by yourself without feeling alone. The city is full of loners, and that's somehow reassuring. I feel more alone in the suburbs and the workplace, where I have more problems connecting.