Ana54 wrote:
...a PROFESSIONAL has said to you!
When I was diangosed the shrink that diagnoed me said something to the effect of, "I, for example, know when someone else wants to talk or doesn't want you to keep going on and on. You, on the other hand, don't." Only he said it in a more innocent way, not like he really meant to insult me, but he still seemed to think he was better than me at that lol. the real reasson I did that is because while I knew when people got bored or didn't like it, I just kept talking anyway because I needed to get it all out; I needed feedback about all of it, which was a part of me, really bad, because I was understimulated. Does that make sense?
What that therapist (or whatever they were) meant was that neurotypicals in general (the therapist being a member of the class of people labeled "neurotypical") have an instinct for knowing when to shut up about a subject before the person/people they are addressing get bored/alienated.
In contrast you (being autistic) lack that instinct. And that IS a common trait of autistics (being monologists). The person meant "you as opposed to most people". Not "you as opposed to me [as an individual]".
I suppose you are right to be pissed off at the way the person said it. But not so much at what they said. The person didnt make it clear that they were diagnosing you, and not "being holier than thou". Lol!