Are you treated as a homosexual, even if not, by NT's?

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im shure people think im ghey. it doesnt bother me, the girl who isnt related to me called me ghey at my sister wedding infront of the other family that was marrying my sister while we were all breaking bread. and they just looked like "ok why did that just happen?"

That does come up some times. I had quite the lesbian following at my last job. I am straight of course, but some people have asked if i ever had those 'feelings', even my spouse. I can honestly say no, i am just not uncomfortable around lesbians or homosexuals, because i dont really define people by their sexual preference. It doesnt really bother me , because i know i love most everything about those fuzzy, muscled up beasties known as men. Never even had a desire to sample the other side.
My husband is aspie too, and very mild tempered. People sometimes ask me if he has gay tendencies because he is very well mannered and has a soft voice. Oooh, good reason. It does make me appreciate how sensitive and kind he is, though. We both joke about being each other's counterparts. He says i would be the female version of him, and i think he is my male version. A little narcissistic, but lots of people are attracted to things in others that remind them of themselves. Vive la difference.

Not that I know of, though since I'm single and other people like to think crazy things it's possible. One girl I knew once suggested to me that I was after she had a few drinks, but she didn't really know me that well in the first place. I guess that meant she didn't catch me looking down her top earlier.

I'm in a long-term hetero relationship and am in the process of getting a house with my partner. So no. But I don't really understand the question - are gays treated any differently than heteros? Nobody I know or associate with treats anyone any differently based on gender preference; gays and straights are all the same. If they're an as*hole they're an as*hole, their sexuality doesn't dictate that, personality does. If people are still treating gays/bis/etc as second-class citizens then they need to be kicked headlong into the 21st century!!

Oscuria, I'm afraid I'm about to get mor philosophic again.
I think the thing is that we aren't grounded and don't want to be. It's like the thread 'Do you want to be a hermit?'. We don't want to be weighed down by materialism or material pusuits. I don't know about anyone else but I am fine and dandy until I'm forced to do something new, especially if I'm tired. Also physical activity sends me into a state of anger (temper tantrum). I believe this is because either of these requires effort that throws us out of our comfort zone. When you're not challenged by life (living in splendid isolation) then nothing can reach you and nothing can upset you - the ideal Aspie life. Humans (NT's) are still struggling with existence though, unlike us (We react to it but struggle? No way - what a waste of energy and so counterproductive to insight and understanding, how the universe works). The provocation is the attempt to drag us down to their level i.e. grovelling in the mud as our milder temper allows them to pick themselves out of the mud, if they want to (Life is voluntary - death is obligatory)

I think we should be renamed Homo Novus or new man because the prejudical NT's are slow, fearful apes - clinging to the past because they're afraid to let go and grasp the future. They think they're being smart instead of what they are, which is vicious. The proof that they are anti-life is to be found in their violent subculture, which is because they are second class citizens, feeling frustrated at their own mental inadequacies: They can't talk and think, so they use their fists and weapons to speak for them. Sad but dangerous, if you get in their way. Becoming extinct, so wave them goodbye and let them go their own merry (?) way.

I'm hetrosexual and guys think of me that way (too bad all the jerks tend to like me )

I am heterosexual....I am far too squeamish around girls to be a lesbian...I did, however go through a long phase where I felt rather asexual/androgenous...From childhood, until I hit puberty...and I dressed that way, I often dressed like a boy....and was often teased and called a Lesbian, especially in Jr. High...where I actually had a best friend who was teased and called a lesbian for being friends with me.
After I hit puberty, I went through a brief period of time where I thought i was bisexual....I was kinda fascinated with overtly feminine girls because they seemd so different from me...maybe because I sorta have the male-brain-thing going....i guess....I dunnow....

But..I have always mainly been attracted to guys...and I have been in a long string of long-term heterosexual relationships....since I was 15