krex wrote:
It makes me wonder if autistics do not like to look at eyes because so much of the emotiional expressions of the other person are "negative" towards us...disapproval, anger, confussion and we are sensitive to it ?
I don't think it even has to be negative. After knowing my own husband for 23 years, i still cannot usually hold a gaze with him when he is being loving or flirty. His presence is my safest, happiest place in the world, yet, i can do it for possibly 5-10 seconds max. It is sometimes hard to do and somehow just too much. Too much of what i can't even say; it's too intense. It is also easier at some times than at others but i don't know a pattern yet. I wish i could learn how to master it because i know it would make him happy. Maybe autism is just random unaccountable fear. It makes me wonder if it is not a matter of not feeling but of feeling far too much and shutting down, just like sensory or sound sensitivities.