Do you also find the following questions irritating?

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Yes, I hate that question. I even more hate "you need a woman"! (I know that it's bad to stay alone but...)


I know it very good - Why are you still frowning? (I am not frowning, this is my normal facial expression!!)

I don't mind answering most of those questions, except for:
"Why don't you have friends?"
"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"
"Why don't you go out on the weekends?"
But I'm rarely asked those questions. When I am, I try to answer in a funny and/or creative way.
Most people who ask me questions avoid asking me questions in the future because my answers are long and full of unnecessary information.

I get..

"You dont have a job? Why not?"

"When are you going to have children?"

"What did you do this weekend?"

Those are the four I get. Nobody likes these sorts of questions. I am surprised people still ask them when everyone actually hates answering them.

"Why don't you have friends?"

Heh, are you offering to be my first?

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

Whoa, steady on. You looked like a guy to me.

"Why don't you go out on the weekends?"

Have you ever been under house arrest?

Note: I would not recommend using any of these one-liners.

I get :

"so, when are you going to find a boyfriend?" - had one, returned him as he was defective. He was like a broken mirror - 7 years bad luck. Haven't had the nerve or inclination to try again. I don't want to get hooked up just for the sake of being "hooked up" either.

"Why is it that you don't have children, don't you like them?" - darn mommy cult. Not everyone is maternal.

"Don't you find your job boring? I would". - usually from people who don't seem to be doing *their* job and are busy interrupting me. My mind likes repetition, they should be thankful that there *are* people out there like me because a lot of the more so-called tedious things wouldn't get done otherwise.

"Why don't you drink" is a question I haven't heard in awhile. Most people at work get it that I don't drink(although it took awhile, I was often being gifted with a bottle of wine as a "thank you". They look nice in my wine rack, if nothing else). My sister was confused - she thought my claim to "not drink" meant "alone" or I "only drank the fruity girl drinks" like wine coolers, etc. Sigh. She felt I was attacking her when I bluntly asked her if we had met before. Back in my college days, I used to have a pet drink in my hand at the rare social occasion. I never drank it, just carried it around all night long, as an accessory. Sometimes I would feign an allergy, although that only worked if you didn't run into the person who "has someone in the family allergic to alcohol" and wants to compare symptoms.

I see no reason to lie. In that list, I found only one of those things that was necessary, or at least of extremely high priority, to me at this point in time, and I've already got that covered. Other people should not feel entitled to impose their priorities or idea of a good life on me. I can see how someone might want something but not easily get it (mostly in regards to the friendship and dating questions), but that's hardly an autistic problem, to have not found the right person/people, or in the case of the other things, to not have money or not feel ready or good about doing something. There are perfectly legitimate, "normal" reasons for not involving yourself in what some people might consider necessary activities.

More than the questions, I hate the ASSUMPTIONS that I do/have most of these things. It's a rather awkward thing to not be able to answer a question, or have to go through explaining that you're not involved in a certain activity, with someone who accepts it as a given.

I'm gonna have to try one of these.