How do you not annoy people?

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Sometimes when you use wit they get extremely annoyed and take offence. I have been told so many times I am witty, hilariously funny. My problem is an unusual one. It's my subconscious mind. I am subtle without being aware of it and others pick up on the subtleties before I have a chance to realize what I am doing and filter them out. Others think I am mocking them but I am not consciously doing this. Another reason for me to stay quiet.

Well with being a good person, I made a promise as a kid after watching movies and things that I would not forget that kid and I will try to do things that I would have agreed with. yes there is that downside to wit, I have learned to only speak that way when I am sure. Wait I figured out my other idea, I kind of at times act very ignorant when talking straight out and asking questions especialy from girls I like. People seem to acept this better and it hides your vulnerbilities, people seem to like you sometimes if you just apear simple, but I do fear that at some of these times I was not picking up signals.

am get nastiness off people a lot for being 'annoying' in some way,online/WP, off own family and off [LD/ss] support staff.
online,it's usually about the way am speak-it's strange because am have had more understanding and tolerance about this on a major cat forum than WP [no one has abused am yet about it there],one time am had memorized how to do it the way other users do,for a while,but at the loss of own health-keeping intolerant users from e-tantrumming isnt worth the extreme overload and confusion am suffered from using their words.

offline,am get this off a lot by LD/council support staff at home.
of the ones who hate am,they seem to have a go at am about anything.
one of them/leanne used to be very nice with am,but now she hates am and has said it,and she is really bad,though sometimes she will use nice words,and am dont know what is going on [bad--good?].......then am realised there were other staff around when she played tolerant.
the NAS support staff asked leanne if she can cope with am when they've gone,and leanne said am keep her very busy all the time,but she likes the challenge....,that does not sound right because whenever the other staff leave she disappears to another resident because she can chat with them and she always says how nice she is,she has told am that all the staff hate am and fight over who has to work with am....dont know what have done to deserve that.
The NAS staff say they all like am,don't find am annoying.




it does not sound fair at all that people judge nastily on others just because they have different intelligence to them.
it shouldnt make any difference,its just as much part of a creature as the skin or heart is-cant really get by without any of them.
they should know its good that there are people with higher intelligence out there,those with high intelligence
do a lot of the high intelligence needed things needed in the world.
am do not understand how someone having high intelligence could be seen as thinking worse of someone else, maybe they are trying to see things they want to see.

I guess it is a kind of alien human concept, where you attack something you do not underscared as you would rather attack then be attacked. And for many they do not have to worry about losing one person as there are so many others.

Maybe it's the clothes you wear that piss people off and not what you say.
You can't hide it if you are more intelligent than people and unfortunately most people would be jealous of that.

people do not notice me, I just let them come to me. The ones who are annoying, comes to me for some reason, I stay my ground is all.. weird yes, to me its just being me

Many people are intimidated by someone who has a more extensive vocabulary. Me personally, I love when people send me scrambling for a dictionary.

I kind of annoy people by staying quiet and being weird.

I have a similar problem and I realized it was because I generally only talk to people if I think I can help them with something. So I never talk about things I don't know a lot about. That I guess makes me come off as a know it all.