How do you function in society?

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Never did well in society. Avoided people and still avoid people as much as I can including neighbours. Retired now, had good jobs but changed often as I always felt out of place after a while. Had many, many short terms relationships and only one long time relationship (18 years) with another one like me: too loners together worked great until his death three year ago. Sure did and still do make a lot of aspie related errors also, got used to it over the years!

i always felt out of place & still do, i can never relate to anyone at times or should i say a lot of the time. i enjoy my home envoiroment but when i go out, that's when it becomes difficult. i can never make friends easily & if i do it can take a long time to get used to them. i don't really like a lot of society today, its too noisy for me & i get irritated. i'm the kind of person who can only concentrate on one thing at a time, i can't multi-task.
my worse thing is trying to start a converstion with people, and i always hate chit-chat.
things of no importance.

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There is a very narrow window between me and society, and it is difficult for both parties to view the other. Because of this reduced visibility, both parties do not get a very clear picture and so there is much distortion. I have a key to the window so it is like a door, but society has no tool to access me. Most of the time, this is for the best. I do not expect society to adapt to me, and I certainly do not want them in my head. They certainly do not seem to want me in their heads, either. The rest of the non-Autistic world deems many of us throwaways and this is to society's detriment, as it is more costly to shove us in a corner, or a closet and forget about us. Perhaps this is why we would rather remain in our own worlds, hold the key and not look through the window into their muddled universe.

Don't function well at all in society, but I don't credit the dysfunction to autism.

What do you credit it to?

If my environment growing up had been different, I think I would have been a lot more adapted and functional in society, despite the autism.

In society I usually function with a jumbled state of the nerves. Always looking forward to getting back home to the computer.

at first sight people would think of me as quite normal, until I start living with them, so I think the lesser I have to deal with people (with gallery owners (always say the wrong things and they turn to dislike me) and the likes for my interactions, as a tour leader for Dutch tourist in Thailand and Morocco..a fiasco, didn't know what I did wrong) the better, so slowly I think of becoming a recluse somewhere in the wild in India...a sadhu maybe

Looks like one trait we all share is we all feel like we don't belong:(

I do well at my job, but don't socialize very much.

I work full time and do my job well. I own an apartment, I'm married and I pay my dues and handle all my responsibilities fine. However, I'm pretty much of a loner, I don't socialize much at all, I don't do much for my relationships with family members and there's no way I'm going to have children of my own. I have few friends and I seldomly spend time with them anymore (I'm quitting the one-sided effort of staying in touch with them).

So I guess you can say I function fine on the practical level and terribly on the social level.

I think I do pretty good. I'm one of the uncool kids in school, but I've managed to secure a good circle of friends that are also the 'un-cool kids'.

I do okay at school.

Loborojo, I studied art at St. Lukas Institute in Belgium too! I'm from South America.

how? What nationality are you and how you ended up there?? Where in SA are you now?

Exchange student to Gent, from Uruguay. Binnenhauskunst. Now I live in the Middle East.

Vlanderen boven!

did you check my website, is that how you knew I studied there? How is life in the middle East...are you in Oman?