plainlyordinary wrote:
Do any of you have any thoughts or experiences about the difficulty involved in understanding and functioning in a world which teaches one to value and respect the truth, while simultaneously expecting one instinctively know the diagnostic protocol involved with identifying those situations where the truth is not appropriate and should be replaced with a white lie or strategic deception?
Since i was old enough to speak, telling the truth has never ceased to regularly get me in social "trouble." i'm sure some of you can relate. if so, tell me about it.
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"From the moment I could talk I was ordered to listen..."http://www.lyricsfreak.com/c/cat+steven ... 28183.htmlCallista wrote:
I really think that instead of being taught eye-contact, Aspie children should be formally taught tact! This would be a way to avoid having to lie, but know when to keep quiet,
True, the need to actually lie is rare. Most things are not that important and you can usually find some way to evade. Unless you're talking to your mother or a cop or a lunatic with a gun... (same thing, I guess...)
anbuend wrote:
Autistic people may be, as a whole, less prone to some of these, but that's a tendency, not an absolute, and even in people who are less prone, it doesn't mean they can't be prone to them at some times more than others. And I've noticed the easiest way to fall into some of these traps, is to deny the possibility that you're capable of falling into them. If you acknowledge them, then you might not be able to catch all of them, but you can at least look out for these problems and be willing to acknowledge an error...
...What I am saying is more like... the longer I've thought about something, the more complicated it gets, and the more I'm aware of the limitations of having a single human brain in a very complex world. Thinking I know the truth about something is a surefire way not to be open to new information. At the same time, there's such a thing as being too uncertain.
Your whole post made sense. I just cut it back because big quotes annoys me.
The arrogance trap is a real danger, more for Aspies than others. How can you help becoming arrogant when the world is so crazy? That's why it's good to stick together. Intellectual isolation can lead to serious problems.
Still, some things are actually pretty simple. Sometimes a duck is just a duck. It's not arrogance to say, "Hey -- look at that! Do you see a duck, or what?" -- and then listen for an answer. When you hear a deafening silence or a Fruit Loop response, maybe there's something wrong.
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06 Sep 2008, 5:10 pm
